A Greater Love
Jesus is Greater: An Exposition of Hebrews November 9, 2025 Hebrews 13:1-6 Notes
We live in a world where love often grows cold—where relationships are strained, marriages are fractured, and people are lonely even when surrounded by others. What’s worse, our world has lost sight of what true love really is.
It is not merely an emotion, but an act of the will. It involves commitment, sacrifice, and steadfast devotion.
Yet we can’t manufacture this kind of love on our own. We need a greater love—Christ’s love—filling our hearts and flowing through us in every relationship. That’s exactly the kind of love the writer of Hebrews calls us to. In the book of Hebrews 13:1-6, the author, concluding his appeal for believers to live as grateful worshipers in God’s unshakeable kingdom, exhorted believers to demonstrate Christ’s greater love in all their relationships.
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Good morning, church. It's good to see all of you here. This morning we're continuing our series through the book of Hebrews. And we've been going verse by verse through the book of Hebrews, and we have found ourselves near the conclusion. We're in chapter 13, the final chapter, and we've got this sermon and then two more with the next couple of weeks leading up to Thanksgiving to finish up the book of Hebrews.
And it's been quite a wonderful journey going verse by verse through this book. We've entitled this series, Jesus is Greater. We find the theme in chapter one, verse four. It says this.
Hebrews 1:4 (NLT) “This shows that the Son is far greater than the angels, just as the name God gave him is greater than their names.” It seems clear that the author of the book of Hebrews was writing to a Jewish background, people that had come to faith in Jesus and they needed to understand how to read their Old Testament through the lens of the New Testament. More specifically, how to read the Old Testament through the lens of Christ and to see that Christ is the exclamation point at the end of the book, that he's the fulfillment. He's greater. He has a greater covenant, a greater sacrifice, a greater kingdom.
He's greater. Now today, as we get into chapter 13, we'll see that he offers a greater love. A greater love. And coming to chapter 13, we have to recognize what's the shift. It is very clear here that we've had 12 chapters of propositional truths. We've had 12 chapters of doctrinal truth.
Why is Jesus greater? And he's proving that to us for 12 chapters. Now, chapter 13 is going to move from the idea of propositional truth to a prescriptive one. Here's what you do with that information. Here's how you should respond to that information.
So last week we realized that we are part of a greater kingdom, an unshakable kingdom, as followers of King Jesus, and therefore we should worship him with reverence and awe. And now he begins to tell us, and here's what it looks like to demonstrate Christ's greater love in the kingdom. We live in a world today where love is often reduced to a feeling, a passing urge, or a matter of personal preference. We say, I love my wife, I love my dog, and I love chocolate. And we just kind of throw that word around.
But the Bible speaks of a greater love. And he then begins to describe here in chapter 13, what it looks like for us to demonstrate the greater love of Christ. And so you can't manufacture this kind of love, this is not something you can urge up that you can make happen, but you can receive it through Jesus, receiving him as Lord and Savior. He pours his love out in us. And then, if we will allow it, he gives us love so that we accept ourselves and we know who we are in Christ.
And then it flows to us and through us to others. And that's what we see in chapter 13. Now you start to think, this is what it looks like to live as kingdom citizens of this greater unshakable kingdom. And it's going to look like we start loving each other. In the book of Hebrews, chapter 13, he's concluded his appeal for believers to live as grateful worshipers of this unshakable kingdom.
And now he moves us to exhortation, and has really given us these exhortations about how to demonstrate Christ's love. And as we look at the text today, I think we'll see five ways that we can demonstrate this greater love of Christ Jesus. Now, I know some of you are worried. He can do 20 verses with three points, and now he's going to do six verses, and he needs five points.
Okay, so here's what those of you that have been coming here for a while know. I just try to get out of the way of the text. And I try to look. I let the points emerge from the text. Rather than me telling the text what it says, I want the text to speak for itself.
And I think you'll see, as you look at these six verses, you'll see those five exhortations too. And so that's where the points come from. I don't just make them up. I do try to smooth them out so you'll remember them. But I think you'll agree when we conclude these six verses, you see them too well.
Let's dig in. Verse 1 of chapter 13, Hebrews 13:1-6 (ESV) 1 Let brotherly love continue. 2 Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares. 3 Remember those who are in prison, as though in prison with them,
and those who are mistreated, since you also are in the body. 4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. 5 Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” 6 So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper; I will not fear;
what can man do to me?” This is God's word. We're looking for five ways we can demonstrate Christ's greater love. Here's the first way: 1. By continuing in love for the saints.
By continuing in love for the saints. Look at verse one. Circle the word. If you're taking notes, circle the word continue. Continue.
This is not a call to start loving each other. This is a call to continue love. The idea of sustained, sustained love. To maintain this active affection that we share as members of God's family. The Greek word here for brotherly love is the name of a well known city in Pennsylvania, Philadelphia.
It comes from the Greek word the New Testament is written in Koine Greek. Koine means common, it means southern Greek. Basically it's y'all Greek. The New Testament's written in a very accessible language to that first century reader. Koine Greek.
And so the Greek word there is Philadelphia, which means affectionate love, brotherly love. And so it seems that he's saying, let that continue. Well, it makes sense because the author has already commended them back in chapter six that they were loving one another. It says in Hebrews 6:10 (ESV) “For God is not unjust so as to overlook your work and the love that you have shown for his name in serving the saints, as you still do.”
So he's commended them for their love and now he just says, keep doing it, continue in the love for the saints. It might seem a little abrupt if you've been here for several weeks with us. We've gone from this propositional truth. In fact, the last thing he said to us in chapter 12 is in verse 28 “Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe,
29 for our “God is a consuming fire.” Very propositional truth to calling us to worship. And then he says, now that you know you're members of this kingdom, bring your worship. And here's what it's going to look like to live in the kingdom. It starts with loving your brothers and sisters.
Now I've heard some people say, well, I love Jesus, but I don't care that much for the church. Have you ever said that, you ever thought that, you know, it's kind of like saying, hey, you can say this to a husband, hey, I really like you, but I hate your wife because the church is the bride of Christ that he gave his life for. And when you are adopted into the family of Christ, into the body of Christ, you become a member of the church. And in a way saying, I don't like the church, you're saying, I don't like myself, because we are the church. The church is not the steeple.
The church is the people. And so we're to love one another. We're to stay in this affectionate, maintaining this active love for one another that we're called to. Here is what John actually writes of Jesus. Jesus is telling us, this is how people will know you as a follower of Jesus.
John 13:35 (ESV) “By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” It's the trait of members of the church that the world should see. Hey, they must be followers of Jesus. We can tell because of the way they love one another. And so we're called to this.
So don't let your love grow cold. Stay in fellowship. I commend you for being at church today. Thanks for coming. Hope you'll come next week.
In fact, why don't you make it a habit of your life? One of the most practical ways that you can show brotherly love is to show up. Show up. That way I'll know you love me and I'll show up too. That way you'll know I love you.
And so we get out of the habit. It's so easy to get out of the habit. I think it only takes a couple of weeks to get out of a habit. Psychologists tell us it takes six weeks to get into a good one. So try going and doing this.
Why not start the first day of your week off, like tithe the first part of your week to God and say, I'm going to give him the first part of the first day of every week. And then in this way I will be keeping his exhortation to love each other with brotherly love. We are brothers and sisters and every Sunday is a family reunion. Just think of it like that. It's a practical way to show that we love one another.
Don't let your love grow cold. Keep it hot for Jesus and for each other. Love the saints. Well, here's the second way. The first way to demonstrate Christ's greater love is to love the saints.
2. By showing hospitality to strangers.
By showing hospitality to strangers. It says in verse 2, “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers.” The word hospitality is of interest.
Remember I told you the New Testament is written in Koine Greek? It's another phileo word. It's another compound word. The first one was “philadelphia,” which is brotherly love.
And this is “philoxenia.” Maybe you've heard the word “xenophobic,” which means fear of strangers. Did you know that word? But “xenia” has the idea of a stranger.
And “philo” is love. It's translated as hospitality. So the word translated here, hospitality is love. Strangers. Love people you don't know. Invite them over, be good to them, be hospitable, be generous with people you don't know.
That's where he picks up. Here. So love each other, love the saints, love strangers. So how, through hospitality. Let's look at it closely.
Do not neglect what's easy to do, because you don't know them and it's easy not to notice them. But when you are in Christ, he gives you this awareness of others. You start looking around and noticing someone who's sitting by themselves or they're standing off in a corner and they're not fitting in. You start noticing them because Christ in you causes you to go towards those that might feel excluded. This is what Christ does through his love for us.
Because when we were far from God, he came to us and brought us near. And then that urge, that kind of love now calls us to hospitality. He keeps going here, gives us a little bit more than he did the first verse. He only gave us four words. “Let brother love continue.”
But here he goes. “Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.” What is going on here? What is going on here? We have angels coming to the door.
What do we have here? Angels coming and saying, can you help me? I need food. I'm hungry. What is this?
What is he talking about? Remember, he's writing this to the Hebrew background believers who have come to Jesus who need to reconcile their understanding of Judaism and of the Old Testament through the lens of the New Testament we've been calling the book of Hebrews. It's kind of like the Reader's Digest version of the Old Testament, because it keeps quoting the Old Testament. And even when it's not quoting it, it's referring to it.
And here it seems to clearly be referring to Genesis 18, where Abram, before his name was changed to Abraham, is outside his tent. Three men, three strangers approach and they begin to talk to him. They begin to talk to him about what's about to happen to Sodom and Gomorrah. They begin to talk to him about the promise that he will have a son and that he'll be the father of nations.
And it turns out he goes to Sarah, his wife, and he says to her, hey, cook something up, dear. Three guys showed up here, and I want to take care of them. He's hospitable to these three strangers, two of which turn out to be angels and one
of which speaks as if he's the Lord himself. He speaks as if he's Yahweh. I believe he's actually a pre-existent Christ appearing here. This is a Christophany. So that seems to be.
He's saying, hey, look what happened to Abram. He was hospitable to strangers and they turned out to be angels. And one of them was an angel of the Lord and spoke on behalf of God himself as if he were the Christ even. Okay? And so here's what he's saying.
When you're being hospitable to someone, think of it as if you were serving Christ. Think of it as if somehow serving a stranger, loving a stranger, being hospitable to a stranger as if you were serving Christ. Here's what it says in 1 Peter 4:9 (ESV) “Show hospitality to one another without grumbling.”
Show strangers love, hospitality without grumbling about it. Do it because Christ lives in you. In the 4th century, the Roman emperor Julian, who was his predecessor Constantine, who had actually converted to Christ. Julian became one who was complaining about Christianity and he wanted to revert to a pagan religion. He became known as Julian the apostate.
He tried to revive paganism, but he had a complaint. Here's what he said. He said,“The Christians support not only their own poor, but ours as well!” How are we going to overcome these Christians? They not only take care of their own people, they take care of the pagans as well.
We'll never overcome them. They care as much for outsiders as they do insiders. Is that us, church? Are we like that? Do we show hospitality to strangers?
Let's look for opportunities to do this, to open up our hearts and our homes to people we don't know. Can I give you a practical, maybe a practical challenge before you leave today? Here's a way you could respond to today's sermon and never even have to leave the building. Okay? I know you're nervous.
What's he going to call us to do? Well, it'll be up to you whether or not you want to do it. But I want to give you an exhortation. Very practical. I want you to think about doing these three things before you leave.
Meet someone you don't know. Encourage one, pray for one. What would that look like if we as a church, every time you came together into the fellowship of believers, you were to meet one, encourage one and pray for one?
What if you did that? Week after week, people would show up here for the first time and they'd think that is the most amazing group of people. I had people coming up, introducing themselves. I met ten people. They were so encouraging.
Several of them offered to pray for me. Meet one, encourage one, pray for one. I offered this challenge at the first service today and I had people coming to me in the lobby saying, I've done all three. I've done two. Do you need prayer?
I didn't mean for everybody to line up to talk to me to tell me. Go do that. Go meet someone you don't know. Encourage them; pray for them.
Good, practical ways that you could obey God's word today and show and demonstrate the love of Jesus. So that's the second way that we can demonstrate that we are members of his kingdom, that the love of Christ, the greater love, it's greater than the love of the world, could be demonstrated in us. Here's the third:
3. By remembering the sufferer.
By remembering the sufferer. Have you noticed that we've got a point per verse so far? Maybe you're now understanding why we have five. We're on verse three. And we have another command here, another exhortation.
3 “Remember those who are in prison, as though in prison with them, and those who are mistreated, since you also are in the body.” Remember those that are easily forgotten. Who are they? Prisoners, people that have been locked up. People that are out of sight, out of mind. Remember them.
Remember those who are in prison. How do we remember them? As though in prison with them. Hmm. Wow, that's pretty strong.
Picture yourself as if you were in there with them. Now, to give you the setting here, contextually, probably he's speaking to a people who are being locked up because of their faith. This is happening with great regularity. They're being locked up. So their pastor's in jail, their deacons are in jail, their brother in law who came to Jesus, he's in jail.
And they're not only in jail, they're not only in prison, but they're being mistreated. Can you see this? “Remember those who are in prison, as though in prison with them, and those who are mistreated,” which has the idea of suffering, of torture, of being denied proper care, of food and shelter and these kinds of things. And so certainly in the context of this time period, there was a great amount of persecution.
And even as we conclude this chapter, if you went all the way to the end of chapter 13, you can see that he says something about Timothy being released in chapter 13, he says in verse 23, “You should know that our brother Timothy has been released, with whom I shall see you if he comes soon.” So Timothy's been locked up. But he's got news here at the end of the letter that he's been released from prison, apparently somewhere in Rome, because he references that this book was being written while he was in Italy. So I keep saying he because the traditional view is we think Paul may have written it.
I'm more convinced that Luke is the one who's actually the pen. But very much under the influence of Paul. I think Luke was acting as his secretary in the writing. The reason I suggest that I've offered many reasons for it, but one is that it doesn't have Paul's signature at the end. But it does sound very much like Paul's way of writing.
However, it lacks his signature. And so I think maybe Luke was the one writing on his behalf. But he refers to Italy and we know Paul was probably in prison himself in Rome when he's writing this. So it's easy to forget the Christians around the world that are being persecuted today.
We don't know them, they're strangers to us. We don't see them. Now one of the things that happens to me quite regularly is because I've made so many mission trips to Uganda, to Africa, and people see on my social media and on our website they see photographs and stuff of us taking teams there. And we're planning on taking another team this coming June 2026. We do regular work there with Pastor George Mybonye.
But what happens is African countries that surround that area see that on social media and they begin to send appeals to our church website to me and they will talk about Nigeria especially, which in the northern part of Nigeria, the Muslims are persecuting them greatly. They're burning down churches, they're killing people, they're torturing people. It's a terrible, terrible thing that's happening today in Nigeria. And I get word from many of these pastors and what they'll say to me. They'll email me or they'll text me on Facebook Messenger, I found your name.
I saw your website. Would you pray for us? Would you remember us?
What does that mean to remember somebody? What's the idea there? I think we can remember people by praying for them. We can remember them by writing to them. We can remember them by giving towards helping them.
We can say, I will not forget the persecuted that have been locked away. Nor will I forget the wife and the children of that one that's locked up now that can't care for them. And maybe we can also apply it not just to persecuted Christians around the world. But we might just think about, even in our local judicial system, the hurting, the suffering. And I don't know if you've ever been locked up.
I'm not going to ask for a show of hands, but maybe you have. Maybe someone here has been locked up and you know what the isolation feels like, the shame, the separation from family. What I've noticed about people that have suffered, whether it's being locked up or whether it's suffering from some physical ailment or some relational brokenness. Suffering is suffering, isn't it? I've noticed that when we receive Christ and he brings comfort to our suffering, he brings healing to us.
He always gives extra. He always causes the cup to overflow so that there's enough for us and then there's extra for those like us. So that as Second Corinthians chapter one talks about, 3 “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” We have comfort to comfort those with the comfort that we've been comforted with the same brand of comfort. And so maybe there's someone here that feels called to a ministry to the suffering because you've suffered or you've been in prison and so you feel called to minister to them. Jesus talks about this.
Remember how I mentioned a moment ago how you never know when you're showing hospitality to a stranger that it might be an angel unawares? Well, here's what Jesus says in Matthew, chapter 25. He says, Matthew 25:35-40 (ESV) 35 “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me,
36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ 37 Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? 38 And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you?
39 And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ 40 And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me.’ Isn't that something? Just think about that even today. Think about, meet one, encourage one, pray for one.
It's as if you're doing it unto Jesus. He says, “when you do it to the least of these,” this is what it looks like to have this great love in the kingdom that we would remember. Remember is an interesting Greek word. I've been teaching you Greek words.
It's where we get the English word mnemonic. It's like a strange word. It starts with an m and an n: mnemonic. How do you say that? Mnemonic.
But the M is silent. It means to carefully remember something. To come up with a little way, maybe an acronym or something to help you not forget it. Use a mnemonic device to remember something and things like that, you know. And so when I'm trying to meet new people, I try to memorize their names, I try to say something to them that'll help me have a mnemonic way of remembering.
That's the word underneath. Remember here. Very careful remembering. Don't let it be out of sight, out of mind. Really remember people that are suffering. Well, let's go to the fourth way that we can demonstrate love. We've been talking about love of the saints, hospitality towards strangers, remembering the sufferer.
4. By honoring the sanctity of marriage.
By honoring the sanctity of marriage, he's worked his way from the family of God to those that might be outside the family, or they could be within the family, but we haven't met them yet. To those that are out of sight, out of mind. And now he comes right into my house and your house, but not just our house, because he talks about it in a bigger way, as if it's something that would impact our nation, as if it would impact our church.
He says it very broadly here. He says, in verse 4 “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.”
Marriage, he says, is to be honored by all. It's something that you should lift up. It's something to be honored. And he really gives a two-fold instruction here. One in the positive, one stated in the negative.
Let marriage be held in honor. That's positive among all. And let the marriage bed be undefiled. Don't defile the intimate relationship in marriage, because sexuality, human intimacy is ordained by God within marriage, but it's considered a defilement outside of marriage. He says intimacy is so powerful, it's like dynamite.
It's that which provides for the next generation. It creates progeny. It creates intimacy between the two so that the two become one flesh. He's designed it. Where did marriage come from?
Marriage was God's idea. You don't have to get far into the book of Genesis before you find out marriage was God's idea. It's the basic building block of society. If you want to destroy a nation, redefine marriage, destroy marriage. And that nation will not long endure.
You can look at history, you can find it. We live at a very shaky time. Last week we talked about how the world is shaking and we want to be part of an unshakable kingdom. This is what it looks like to have this greater love in an unshakable kingdom. It's to honor marriage and not to allow the marriage bed to be defiled.
Now, he's not talking about sleeping. He's using the metaphor here for intimacy. It should not be defiled. It should not be made dirty.
It should be kept pure, not soiled. Pure and holy. And then he puts extra emphasis here by saying, “for God will judge.” He will judge. Why does God care about this?
Well, ask God. He tells us he cares about your sexuality. He cares about it because he made you, he designed you, and he ordained marriage. And he cares about it. He says, for God will judge the sexually immoral.
The King James version translates this as fornicators. He will judge fornicators. That tends to mean those who mishandle sex outside of the marriage commitment.
This is a trend in our culture today. In fact, I was reading several surveys getting ready for this sermon, and 80% of US households only 50 years ago were headed up by married couples. It's fallen to 50% now. Whenever people do their taxes is how I guess they find this out. But 50% now, and it's continued to decline.
One survey said that four in ten Americans believe that marriage is becoming obsolete. And so there's one group of people who are afraid to get married, probably because their parents divorced and they saw the brokenness of it, and possibly because they're afraid of commitment. So we have a group of people running away from marriage and trying to redefine it that way. And we have another group of people that think if they could legally be married, it would somehow be an endorsement for their sexual lifestyle. It's strange what's been happening to marriage in our culture today.
Make no mistake, it's contrary to the kingdom of God and contrary to God's definition and desire for what? Real love. Not that fuzzy feeling, that urge that we use that word for, but God's unconditional covenantal love.
He calls us out to that for marriage. And so fornication, sexual immorality might be speaking to the single person and adultery certainly to the married person who sleeps outside of their marriage bed. And so both categories are being addressed here. Love looks like honoring marriage. Christ's kind of love honors marriage.
Whether you're married or not. You honor it as something untouchable that is holy and sacred, designed by God. That's why Jesus talked about it in Matthew 19:4-6 (ESV) 4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh.
What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” This is Jesus speaking. He's quoting the book of Genesis. He's talking about God's intent for marriage.
This past Thursday, I was in my study. I was trying to write the final copy of what I would preach. Today. We study together as a team on Wednesdays, and I sleep on it Wednesday night. Thursday morning, I get up and I pray and ask God to show me what I was.
working on this particular part of the sermon about marriage when I got a phone call from my former boss. When I worked in the corporate world running drug stores, I worked for this man for 12 years. We started off a little bumpy in our relationship. He was big and loud and intimidating. And I didn't know how to deal with him as a young man.
But I came to view him really as a father figure because of the way he disciplined me when I needed it and complimented me and encouraged me when I needed it. And we became close. His name's Mike. We talk to each other maybe every five or six years because I've been a pastor now with you for 34 years. We started in my living room in November of 1991.
We had our first public worship service in January of 1992. So it's 34 years for me this month, me in my living room. So it's been a while since I worked for Mike. But as soon as I heard his voice, I knew it was him. And his voice broke immediately.
When he heard my voice, he said, hey, boy. I said, hey, boss. Sandra died this morning. That's his wife. He said, you know, she always loved you and Robin.
He says, well, you know she had Alzheimer's. I said, yes, sir, I know. He said she's had it for the last 17 years. She got it at age 60; early onset.
And he says, she went fast in terms of her mind, but her body was strong. And the doctor said she lived way longer than most people do with Alzheimer's. And I said, probably because of you, boss. And he goes, well, that's what the doctor said. I just couldn't put her in a nursing home.
I said, tell me about it. He said that she still knew me, but she couldn't talk anymore. She couldn't feed herself. She would be in the bed. And he said, I would get her out of the bed and I would bathe her and I would brush her hair and brush her teeth and I would put her at the dinner table so it felt more normal.
I would hand her a fork. She couldn't pick it up, but I'd hand it to her and I'd take her hand and I'd feed her. And she would look at me and sort of smile. She still knew me. I could tell that she knew me by the way she looked at me.
Especially if I messed up, she cut those eyes at me.
He said, I took her to the bathroom, I took care of her every need. And he said, a couple of months ago she got bedsores and it broke my heart and I couldn't figure out how to get her healed up. He said she even had them on the bottoms of her heels. He said, I took her to the hospital, it took them a couple of weeks and they put her in rehab. And the rehab said, you're going to have to put her into a retirement home.
And he said, I didn't want to do it, but I didn't want her to keep hurting. And so I did. So then I ended up spending nights with her at the retirement home. He said I would go home exhausted. And he said, this past week, he said, I spent every night with her because hospice had been called in.
And I thought, lord, I loved her and I've taken care of her. But if you want to take her home. I told her, I said, honey, if you want to go home, don't worry about me, you go on home and I know you're hurting. So Wednesday night, I was so tired, I'd been spending the night out there. At 10 o'clock, I told her, I'm gonna go home and sleep in our bed tonight. Give me a kiss. He said, she puckered up and she looked at me and she knew me and I knew her.
And I said, honey, I'll see you in the morning. And he said, I came back the next morning and she was already gone.
I asked him, do I have your permission to tell this story about how you honored your wife for 51 years and for the last 17, you were her caregiver? See, for me to imagine him, this big old six foot four guy, always so rough and ready, the way I knew him, gently carrying her and bathing her and brushing her hair, well, that's the picture of how Jesus loves us. And that's the way to honor marriage.
Honor marriage. Let all honor marriage. This leads us to the fifth and final way that we can demonstrate Christ's love:
5. By being content in the Savior.
We're in verses five and six and he's been telling us to love, love, love, love. And then verse 5 he says, don't love. See, one of the marks of Christlike love is there's things you don't love too. There's things you love and there's things you don't love. And it's another one of those “phileo” words here. It's an unusual one. I'd never really studied this one much before;
“aphilarguros” means something shiny, like a coin. It's a synonym for money. Don't love money. Keep yourself free from the love of money. That's what he says.
Love marriage, love strangers, love the suffering. Love each other, but don't love money. Instead, love Jesus. Be content with what you have. Be content with what you have.
Keep yourself free from the love of money. Be content with what you have. And so then he says, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” This is a quotation from Deuteronomy 31, where God speaks to Moses and tells him to tell the people of Israel, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Then again in chapter 31, telling Joshua the same thing.
Then the Lord tells Joshua personally in Joshua chapter one. So it's in the Old Testament three times. This is a well beloved statement from Yahweh God to the people of Israel. But now it's being repeated to the people of God in the church.
“I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Don't worry about loving money. Love me, serve me, Be content in Jesus.
Now I've used this before, but I want you to understand that “I'll never leave you and I'll never forsake you” are not synonymous statements. I will never leave you. So that this is Jesus and this is me. Okay, kind of picture. This, this is Jesus, this is me.
Jesus says, I'll never leave you. Well, I was never worried about that. I trust him. I'm worried about me. I will never leave you nor forsake you.
That's the one that means the most to me. I ain't letting go. You can be content in me. You can be content in Jesus. I'll never leave you.
I'll never forsake you. And so he's quoting the Old Testament, but he's not finished. In verse six he has to quote the Old Testament. Again, he quotes from Psalm 118 in verse 6, “So we can confidently say, “The Lord is my helper;
I will not fear; what can man do to me?” He's my helper. The word helper here has the idea of one who runs to answer the call.
One who runs to answer the call. He's my helper. When I call, he runs to answer the call. He's my Lord.
He's my Savior. I can be content in him. Love one another. Show hospitality to the stranger. Remember those imprisoned.
Right. Remember the suffering. Honor marriage and look to the Savior. Be content in the Savior. This is what Paul says.
Philippians 4:11-13 (NLT) “…I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. 12 I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything. I have learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or little. 13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength.” We can love John says in 1 John 4:19 (ESV) “We love because He first loved us.”
We can demonstrate Christ's love. We can show it in the way we live in the kingdom today. Let's pray. Lord, I pray first of all for that person that's here today. And you've never committed your life to Jesus.
I want to give you an opportunity to do that right now. Every Sunday, it's our sincere desire that people far from God would be brought near by the hearing of His Word that would move them to faith. And I pray that that's you today. And if your heart is being stirred right now, then know this, that that's the spirit of Jesus knocking at your heart's door. Would you say yes to him today?
Would you say yes to Jesus today? Pray like this with me if it's your desire to follow Jesus. Dear Lord Jesus, I'm a sinner, but I want to be forgiven. I believe you died on the cross for my sins, that you paid for my sins, that you are raised from the grave and that you live today. I believe that.
Come and live in me. I invite you now to be my Lord and Savior. Forgive me of my sins and make me a child of God. If you're praying that prayer of faith, believing, he'll save you, he'll adopt you into his family, and he'll pour out that love of Jesus into your heart. Others are here today, and you are a believer.
But today there's someone you need to forgive. There's someone you need to reconcile with. There's someone that you need to go and encourage and pray for. There's someone you've forgotten that you need to remember.
Would you give that to the Lord right now? Holy Spirit, bring it to our minds that which we've overlooked. We're a forgetful people, Lord. Help us to remember. We thank you now, in Jesus’ name, amen.
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All right. Good morning, church. So glad you're here this morning. I want to spend the first minute or two here just to make a couple of pretty key announcements, if I could get my brother Josh to come up here. Where are you hiding at?
Come on up here, big guy. So this week, we've been kind of putting some feelers out, letting y' all know. Hey, somebody's coming. Some of you know him, some of you have known him since he was very young. This is Mr. Josh Winslow.
He just started with us this Monday, so. So it's been a week of learning and working together, and I can't wait. We've really put him over three pretty important things here, biggest of which is helping our guests really connect to us. And the second of which is pretty important, too, and that's helping us with discipleship, taking next steps, and then he's hopefully going to help me keep this building looking good, and that's part of his work, too. So now that we have a building, we have to actually maintain it, which is crazy.
So, anyway, we're thankful for you, Josh. What I want to do right now, though, is as a church, since he's just started with us. Couple things, if you haven't met Josh yet, meet him before the day's out, all right? He's going to be with us, and he can work with you a lot better if he actually knows who you are. And so introduce yourself today if you haven't yet.
But let's. Everybody in the room, if you will, bow your heads and extend your arms with me. We're going to pray over him and our ministry here. Heavenly Father, we thank you so much for Brother Josh this morning. We're thankful for his willingness to come up here and serve your holy name at Eastgate Rocky Mount.
We're very thankful for him. And more than anything, Lord, I just pray that you will speak into his life over these next few months, next few years. However, it is long, Lord, that you decide to allow him to minister with us, Lord, that you would really give him wisdom, show him direction, and that, God, you will grow him in the ways that you desire so that he can go on to do fruitful ministry wherever you send him. And, Lord, I'm just praying also that through his ministry here, our church will be blessed, that we will grow in discipleship and grow in our maturity because of his effort, Lord. So we thank you so much, Lord.
Be with us as we work together with Josh. We pray all these things in Jesus name. Amen. Welcome, buddy. Thank you.
For you all Right. Now, the other thing is, you probably noticed this as you came in. Some of you have been on the journey with us for a little while, and, you know, we did something else with this, but about almost a year ago now, what we're gonna do with it now is I pray every one of you will take this opportunity. We're going to do a couple of really wild things at the end of December. And so we always try to do a pretty big Christmas invitational kind of Christmas together.
I want to remind you of something this morning. Your friends, your co workers, your family members that generally do not want to come to church with you. They might just come on a Christmas service. They might just come to an Easter service. And so this I pray you will take the opportunity over the next few weeks to begin inviting somebody.
But it starts where it starts, with prayer. And so what I want you to do before the day's out is write down a name up here and perhaps another name down here. That's your long shot. What I mean by long shot is it's gonna be a miracle for this one to come. But God likes miracles.
He's a big fan. And so if you will write down at least one name on this card of somebody that you're going to be inviting to our easter service on December 21st. Someone you're Christmas, Christmas. We're not doing Easter in December. That's coming later.
Sorry, y'. All. Christmas, December 21st. All right. So someone that you're actually going to be able to.
Don't just. We've used these in the past for other things. That's great. I'm good with that. But this time, I want you to write down a name or two of some people you're going to actually invite for Christmas service, and we are going to begin praying for them.
So whoever you write here, we're going to take these out as a staff this week, and we're going to be praying for these by name. And over the next few weeks, as a church, we're going to pray together over these names. And what I want to promise you is this. That service is going to be very gospel centered. I preach the gospel every week, but it's going to be very, very clear on December 21st.
And nothing weird either. I know some of you tell me later, you're like, why is it that you did that strange thing on the service where I finally brought a friend? Okay. I'm trying not to do strange things ever, but it happens. But I'm making this promise to you.
My goal is That'll be a Sunday service where they can be blessed and encouraged and hear a clear gospel. And so begin praying for that, begin inviting them. Here's the big thing for my members in the room. We're going to do two services on that Sunday. We've never done that before at Eastgate, Rocky Mount.
And so we're going to need all hands on deck. All right, so December 21st, let's start planning a big day where we're going to see I know the Lord do some miraculous things and bring people to faith. And so I can't wait for that. Put that on your calendars. December 21st.
All right, so let's dig in. Now. We're going to be in the Book of Hebrews. We're nearing the end. We're in chapter 13.
If you're new around here, don't worry, you can go back and check these out online for sure. But every one of these sermons kind of. It has its own flair. You're going to get something today, even if you've missed where we've been. So we're going to be in Hebrews chapter 13, 1 6.
And. And we've entitled this sermon A Greater Love. The whole series has been about the idea that Jesus is greater. A greater kingdom, a greater faith, a greater person, a greater salvation. We've done 20 some of these.
Greater, Greater Jesus. And it all comes. It starts right out of the gate. In Hebrews chapter one, we kind of get the, hey, this is what this book's going to be about. Hebrews chapter one, verse four.
It says, this shows that the Son is falling far greater than the angels, just as the name God gave him is greater than their names. This whole book has been about greater than. So in chapter 13, we've entitled this Greater Love. And God has demonstrated to us a greater love than we could possibly imagine through the life, death, burial, resurrection of Jesus Christ. And so that's why we gather here, this is why we do church, is because God has poured out an amazing, a greater love.
And we're supposed to demonstrate that now to others. That's what it means to be a Christ follower, a Christian, a follower of Christ means that the love of Christ now pours into you and through you to others. Now we live in a world that's very strange, at least a culture, I would say that's very strange. When it comes to love, it often grows cold. We live in an environment where love often gets cold, relationships get strained, marriages get fractured, people are lonely, even when they're completely surrounded by Others, even when you have the opportunity to talk to people constantly, you feel more lonely than ever.
It's kind of wild. What's worse is our world has really lost sight of what a true love really looks like. What does it mean to really express a godly, a. A greater kind of love? You see, love, biblical love at least, is far greater because it's not merely an emotion.
Some of you have learned this already in marriage. Sometimes you can love the person you're with, but you don't like them at the moment. But love isn't always an emotion. It is. It can be, but it's more of an act of the will.
It is a commitment. It's a covenant. That's what love really is. It's sacrifice, it's devotion. And our culture really doesn't like those words, sacrifice and devotion.
But that's what it means to truly love. We can't manufacture this kind of love, this godly, sacrificial, Christlike kind of love. We can't manufacture that. It has to come first from God to us and then by God through us. And so I'm prayerful today that you'll hear these words first and be encouraged by the fact that Christ Jesus desperately loves you, that he has done everything necessary for your salvation.
It's incredible. But also he's given you a challenge that you would be his hands and feet in your city. So we're going to be in Hebrews, chapter 13, verses 1 through 6, and we're going to see here an appeal, an appeal to believers to live as this grateful worship. We talked about this last Sunday where we've got this unshakable kingdom in Christ Jesus. So now be thankful and.
And let your life be worship. And what is part of that? It is loving others the way God has loved you that is part of your act, spiritual act of worship. And so we're going to be in this passage here hearing five ways that we can demonstrate Christ's greater love in our relationship. I know for some of you you're scared already.
Five ways, that's not your normal there, Jonathan. I hope you aren't hungry. I hope you brought snacks. All right, here we go. I'm just kidding.
I'm not going any longer. I have a minimum. I come up here with three pages, nothing more. If I come up here with four, we're all in trouble. All right, so here we go.
Hebrews chapter 13. Let's read a handful of verses here together and be blessed. It says in Hebrews 13, verse 1. Let brotherly love continue. Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.
Remember those who are in prison as though in prison with them, and those who are mistreated, since you also are in the body. Let marriage be held in honor among all. And let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. Keep your life free from the love of money and be content with with what you have. For he has said, I will never leave you nor forsake you.
Amen to that. So we can confidently say, lastly, the Lord is my helper. I will not fear what can man do to me. God bless the reading of his word. Amen.
I pray this one encourages and challenges you. We can demonstrate Christ's greater love in this first by continuing love for the saints. Now there is a big old. A big old what if There the word continue. He says in verse one, let brotherly love continue.
This is assuming something that you're showing it to begin with. Some of you need to do a little self check right now. Am I even showing any brotherly love currently? Because if not, I'm already missing the call today. He's saying, let it continue.
It has already said in Hebrews chapter six. This is why he's able to say this. Look at this verse, Hebrews 6:10. It says, For God is not unjust so as to overlook your work and the love that you have shown for his name in serving the saints as you still do. So he's already commended them.
Hey, you guys have been doing a good job serving, loving one another. Now here in the end of the book, hey, let that keep going. Don't stop that part. Like that's one of the most important things you're doing. That's one of the most important things we do as a church.
Look, we can get the music right, the preaching can be good, we can take great care of your kids. But if people come here and go, wow, those people are really not very loving. Those people are not very kind, not very welcoming. They no one and I don't blame you, no one would come back. They would go, wow, what is up with that place?
That's supposed to be about the love of Christ and there's no love. What is going on here? He says, let the brotherly love continue. This almost seems obvious to me, but I recognize something and I don't know if this grips you for a moment. I pray the Lord will kind of help you work through it.
What seems obvious to me is not always so Obvious to others this idea that brotherly love should kind of be the foundation, the cornerstone of what it means to be a Christ follower, that what it means to be the church is we love one another. We sometimes, unfortunately, at least in the American church, we get kind of into a rut where we sit on the outside as if we're not part of the body. As critics, we sit on the outside as, like, dissatisfied customers. Some of you are guests today. Don't worry about this.
This little snippet is not for you. All right? I want you to just be a satisfied customer today to begin. But that's not where I want you to remain. I want you to hear our vision for the church.
It's come as you are and be forever changed by the love of Jesus. Not come as you are and stay as you are. That's not the Christian model. And so come. We're thankful you're here today.
But our goal, our hope is that you will love one another well in your acts of service and your time with one another, in your discipleship with one another and the way you care about each other. We do not remain as we were. We change. And so if you've been here for a long time and you're acting more like a dissatisfied customer than family, I want you to know it's hurting you more than anyone else that you're not involved. You're not connected to the body.
You're not loving in ways that God would design and call you to the identifier, in fact, of true discipleship. Jesus says, this is love. Look at John, chapter 13. By this, all people will know that you are my disciples if you have love for one another. If we get this wrong, church people will absolutely go.
I don't want to be a part of this church thing, because I can get that kind of mistreatment everywhere. I don't have to go to church for that. But if they come here and go, wow, I don't know why these people are caring for me in the way that they are. They barely know me. Amen to that.
It's because of the love of God. Not because of our power, but the love of God, because guess what? He did. He loved us in spite of us. So now we can model that.
So let's not let our love grow cold. Let us continue in fellowship and in forgiveness. Hear this, church. Forgiveness is a marker of the Christian church and faithfulness to each other. Here's the next.
I've got five here. And this is what the writer of Hebrews does. He Says, let love continue. Then he says, hospitality. So the second way we demonstrate Christ's love is by showing hospitality to strangers.
By showing hospitality to strangers. I'm going to go ahead and just preface this by saying, when you start doing this, well, buckle up, because there's a whole lot of people in our city and surrounding neighborhoods that no one ever talks to them. No one ever even looks at them. The moment you look at some of these strangers, they're going to eat that up. Buckle up.
That's what the word of God says. Not just here. It says many times that the model of Christian love is that we do not neglect to show hospitality. This word here in the Greek is literally love to strangers. Philo xinia is the word in Greek here.
It's the same word from before we had Philadelphia. Brotherly love. The city of Philadelphia is the city of brotherly love. I'm not sure it really is that way, but this word now is similar. Philo Xenia.
Xenia means stranger, outsider, alien, foreigner. It says brotherly love. Them like the brotherhood. Because you could possibly. This is one of the weirdest parts of our scripture today.
Verse 2. Look at it. Did you miss it? It says you might be entertaining angels unawares. Okay, so what are we saying here?
Sometimes we're interacting with angels and not people. I think that is not church. I'm telling you. I don't think that's normative. I think it's meant to point to some things in the scriptures.
Remember, this is the book of Hebrews, written to Jewish background believers who are familiar with their Old Testament. He's reminding them of a couple of stories. The number one that comes to my mind is in Genesis chapter 18, where these three angels appear to Abraham and there's a whole dialogue there. They go down to Sodom and Gomorrah. There's this whole conversation that Abraham has with them and he treats them with hospitality.
That's the image that they're meant to point to. Is the writer here saying, hey, you never know. You never know what God's up to. So treat everybody with hospitality because you might be dealing with some people that have showed up to give you a word. They showed up to remind Abraham, hey, your wife's going to have a baby and there was a covenant and there's a big deal, so show hospitality without complaint.
This is one of the markers of Christ's love. I got to admit to you, this might have been the biggest challenge of the message for me today, because I am the kind of guy that puts blinders on when I go out and shop, I do not want to see people. I just want to do the thing I came to do. I came here to buy some groceries and then I see some of you and go, I gotta be a good guy. Even though I really just want to get in and out because my favorite place is home.
Sorry. This is how I am. If you don't want to come back, I understand. I'm working on it. But this one challenges me.
In this verse that the apostle Peter says. He says in First Peter, chapter four, show hospitality to one another. Without grumbling. It's that last little part I have trouble with. I'll do it with a little bit of complaining, right?
And the only people that know that live with me show hospitality to one another. There's some really wonderful history on this. I love this one fact. When Christianity first hits the scene in the first century on, they were having a difficulty with them because they were living so lovingly with their neighbors that even the people, the Roman emperors and various people who wanted to really get rid of Christianity, they wanted this out because it was interfering with emperor worship and various things that were essentially Roman. And so they were trying to undo this.
But I love what this is. Roman Emperor Julian once complained. Here's the words. He complained because he wanted to revive the religion of this paganism that had once been Roman. Here's what he said.
The Christians support not only their own poor, but ours as well. He said this because they couldn't seem to get rid of the Christians. And the people loved them. They loved them. Their love for one another, even for outsiders, was undeniable.
I have to admit something. Church. I'm not sure this is what we're known for now. It was once, I think some people in the outside world would say, no, the church is known for hypocrisy. The church is actually known for a bunch of people who stab you in the back.
I've heard this from people. The church is the kind of place where you go to argue about paint colors.
These are the kinds of things you've heard, I've heard right. But that's not historically what Christianity is. Christianity should be known in the city that the mayor and the city council and everybody goes, man, these Christians, they're going to put us out of business. Exactly. Because we gave our job away.
It was our job to take care of the needy. It was our job to take care of the widows. And we've given it up to the government who has done so well with Was meant to be the church's job. So now what do we do? Okay, we got to start implementing things personally.
Where does it begin? It begins with you. It begins with your family. That's where it starts. You start showing hospitality to strangers and something will begin to change.
It can start here. There's a room full of people right here. We can make a huge impact on our city by showing hospitality to strangers, loving them, not looking past them. Here's something we're trying to implement here as a staff, but I want to put it a bug in each and every one of your ears. When you come here on Sunday mornings, will you try to do three things?
Three things. Meet one, encourage one, and pray for one. Meet one, encourage one, pray for one. So while you're here on a Sunday morning, I'm going to try to meet somebody new because there's new people showing up every week. I'm going to try to encourage somebody today.
And if I can, Lord willing, I'm going to pray with somebody every Sunday. Guess what that'll start to feel like? That'll start to feel like some love up in this building. That's all I can ask for. That's all I can dream for.
And then guess what we might do? That stuff might get contagious. It might leave the room. It might show up somewhere on a Monday to where? Oh, normally I come in here and I act angry because I hate my job.
But instead I showed up and decided to encourage and pray for people.
What kind of love might that look like? I hope you're hearing this church, because I'm not playing around, even though I've got a smile on my face. Let's show one another love. Here's the third. The third way that the writer here gets to, he says, by remembering the sufferer, by remembering the sufferer.
Because I love you so much. Are you seeing the trend? We've got S's here, folks. We've got S's.
The sufferer, the saints, the strangers. Here's where, in the middle of this passage, and this was super relevant for them in verse three, he says, remember those who are in prison as if you were in prison with them. Just imagine, this could be you and those mistreated. And then he says, as you know, you're also in the body. This could be you, the ones getting beaten and persecuted for their faith.
This could be you. So remember them. What does it mean to remember? I think it's definitely about prayer, definitely about prayer. But I think it could go beyond that, that you reach out now.
Here's what's going on in America. We don't get imprisoned very often for faith. I'm not very familiar with many of those occasions. I know it may have happened. I don't know of any locally.
Sometimes we get mistreated for our faith, but not to the level he's speaking of. He's speaking of physical harm. So what do we do with this then? I think this means as the church, as Christians, we support our brothers and sisters around the world with prayer, with opportunities where maybe we send help. We have missionaries in various places.
Some of you are new around here. I just want you to know we've got missionaries in Turkey right now. That is not an easy place to be a Christian. We've got missionaries right now in Kazakhstan, I believe, although they're on the move. Not an easy place to be a Christian.
We pray for those people. We could talk offline about this because this stuff goes online and I don't want to get anybody in trouble. But we pray for our brothers and sisters around the world and we send help when we can and we pray. Hey, perhaps you hear in small groups, hey, John Smith is having trouble at work because every time he tries to act godly and every time he brings up his faith, he gets persecuted. That would be an opportunity to pray and spend time with a brother who's been being mistreated.
Jesus says this about caring for others who suffer. He says in Matthew 25, one of these famous passages, he says, when I was hungry, you gave me food. When I was thirsty, you gave me drink. I was a stranger, you welcomed me. I was naked and you clothed me.
I was sick and you visited me. I was in prison and you came to me. Then the righteous will answer him, saying, saying, lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you thirsty and give you drink, a stranger and welcome you naked and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and visit you? The King will answer this.
Hear this church. Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers, you did it to me. The way in which we take care of the body of Christ. He hears it, he knows it, he rewards it, he encourages you in it. I love that he adds this idea of when I was sick, you visited me.
It's part of the role of the church, not just the role of the pastor, the role of the church that you would care for one another. When we're ill and sick and mistreated and hurting, I want to give you one example. This is Something really happening right now that's pretty. Pretty terrifying in Nigeria right now. Nigeria, Christians are facing a lot of persecution.
I don't know if you've read about this, heard about this, but I would put this on your prayer time when you pray for the world, because our core values here have a heart for God, a heart for each other, and a heart for our world. Perhaps there's an element of your prayer every day where you pray for believers around the world. In Nigeria, Christians are facing persecution from primarily Muslim groups. They've lost homes, churches. Many have lost their lives as a result of their faith, of their faith.
Yet they continue to worship. And I saw this in a recent blog. Most of them were sending to their brothers and sisters in America. They were sending this simple message, please remember us in your prayers. They weren't asking for anything.
Just pray for us. So let's pray for them. Let's remember them. Let's not forget our brothers and sisters who suffer here, who are sick and dealing and mistreated, but everywhere. All right, that's number three.
Here's number four. And this is where it gets weird. It's like, so far, I've been pretty happy. I've been pretty happy with this sermon. And then he drops this nugget, and all of a sudden I get really.
Some of you might be feeling a little uncomfortable. That's okay. I pray the Lord will help you work through it. The fourth is by honoring the sanctity of marriage. We're talking about a greater love.
And, okay, we love the brotherhood, we love the saints, we love those strangers. We love the suffering. We love the Savior. We're going to get to that. What are we doing here?
In verse four. This is weird. All of a sudden, he says, let marriage be held in honor, the marriage bed undefiled. Why are we talking about this? Because we're talking about a greater love.
A greater love. Can I just tell you something that I believe wholeheartedly? The best marriage is a Christian marriage, period. The best marriage comes from God's love. He made it.
He created it. Marriage was his idea. He's in charge of it. It's not up to us. We don't get to decide.
God has decided. So this is why he gets to this place where he's talking about this greater love we have in Jesus and he's reminding us, hey, in the. One of the best forms that we have on earth is this opportunity I've given you in marriage. And guess what? Marriage is supposed to represent Christ and the church.
That's what it says in Ephesians, so be held in honor. Verse 4 goes on to say, let the marriage bed be undefiled. That is, nothing else should be going on in there other than two married people. And it goes on to saying, God's going to judge this. He brings up two things, the sexually immoral and the adulterous.
This means those who are living in singleness, who are doing things they ought not, and those who are married, who are going outside of the ones they're married to. This is what he's speaking to now. Is he talking about salvation? No, he's not. He's talking about the judgment that will come upon those who don't live according to.
To the sanctity of marriage. And so as a believer, as a believer church, hear me when you read this, you ought to go, I want to align myself according to what God has said and nothing else. I want to make the determination that marriage is also held in honor as God honors it. We have a culture where people like to say, well, if they love each other, why can't they get married? Or this is what's crazy.
They'll say that and then immediately say this, if they love each other, why do they have to get married? Well, for me, it's easier than this. It's not up to me.
God's word. God installed. God created. What did he say? Marriage is for one man, one woman for life.
It says, God hates divorce. There's a lot of things. Now, how do I deal with this? I get. There's a lot of variety in the room right now.
I can see your faces. It's a heavy topic. What is God saying here? Through his Word? He's saying that the marriage bed should be undefiled.
If you will live according to my godly purposes, it will go well for you. Better for you.
I try not to dodge these kinds of topics because here's what I truly believe. That God has a better plan for you. If you will walk with him, if you'll follow him with everything. The way you live, the way you deal with your finances, the way you love one another, the way you deal with your marriage, the way you parent your kids. I believe God's way is by far the best way.
Marriage is not a human construct. Here's what Jesus says about this. Matthew, chapter 19. Have you not read that? He who created them from the beginning made them male and female.
He said, therefore, a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh, so they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate. Now, the reason that this has gotten to be so much more of a difficult topic is because things have so drastically changed in our country. Did you know that around 1949. This is based on an article from Pew Research.
They said in 1949, over 80% of US homes were headed by married couples. Over 80%. Today it's nearly half. It's less than 50% are headed by married couples. Even that number seems surprising to me.
I know so many people. The institution this article says, that once represented the foundation of family and faithfulness has been steadily eroded by cultural, economic and ideological shifts. Moreover, in a recent survey, nearly 4 in 10Americans said marriage is becoming obsolete. The very idea of lifelong faithful, one man, one woman marriage is being redefined, minimized, or even rejected. That's the state of the world we live in.
What's this whole part doing in our text then? Oh, it's perfect. I have no doubt why it's here then. Because Christ is saying, there's a greater love in walking with me. Guess this might be bad news to some of you today.
One of the primary things we do as Christians is we be holy, for God is holy. Okay, that sounds kind of spooky. How am I supposed to. Primarily, that means set apart. That what it means to be Christian is to be different.
What it means to be Christian is to be different than the world. Set apart, separate. That means what the world says about, hey, you know, just spend, spend, spend. Credit cards are good run. Hey, if you want to be able to buy a house, you better have a good credit score.
I've heard others say, hey, that's your in debt score. You may not want a high one. Oh, that's what. But bye, bye, bye. Get happy, happy.
We gotta follow these dreams. Hey, if you want to be successful, you've got to have a wife, two kids, picket fence, you got to have all this stuff. I went to four kids, so I screwed that up big time. Totally messed it up. Marriage, you know, that's not really a big deal.
You better if you're going to do it, you know, don't join your bank accounts and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
I'm confident in this church that there's a greater love in Christ Jesus that will help you in every aspect of your life. Let marriages be honored then, whether you're single or you're married today, let's uphold the sanctity of marriage by keeping ourselves pure, encouraging others to do the same.
Here's the fifth, and I know, here comes the relief. Here's the relief by being content in the Savior. Being content in the Savior. Now, you might have felt relief, but some of you aren't going to feel any. Because he goes on and he finishes this passage of Scripture by saying, keep your life free from the love of money.
He's talked about several loves today. The love of the saints, of the strangers, the love of a marriage, and now the love of money. It's another in this love passage, except this time he says, don't do it. Keep yourself from it. This idea of keep your life free is that you would have a character, a manner of life that does not love.
Coin. That word there literally means silver instead. Verse 5. Be content, literally being content with what you have. Now, here's the thing.
Here's what I've observed about myself. This is an area of struggle for me. I imagine it's an area of struggle for many of you in the room. There are times where I will sit out on my back deck and look around and go, all right, there's about 20 things I really want to do back here. I've been dreaming them up.
I've lived in this house since 2018, and over time, I just keep dreaming up new things to do back here. I wish I had a little area. I like to cook, y'. All. I wish I had a little area to have, like a grill, like, set up, you know, where it's.
I could go out there and just enjoy myself and grunt and all that instead of standing sometimes in the mud to grill, you know, because the drainage back there is wacky. I wish I had a nice little pavement area with, like, a smoker. I don't have a smoker yet, but I'm interested. I can't wait to just spend all my day smoking meat while I hear you can just put it on there and just walk away for a while. It's like the lazy man's kind of cooking.
I like that, too. But I wish I had this area, and I wish I had a bigger shed. And I wish I had a fence that didn't look so jacked up because the backyard dog keeps getting after it. And I wish I could close it in because of the chain link fence. I'm tired of looking at the back neighbor's dog, and he's loud and he scares me.
He waits until I'm coming by with the weed eater or mower. He waits. I mean, I've never seen a dog do this. It's messed up I want him out of my life.
I think. I think I think about things I wish I had. You know what I have to struggle with when I start getting into that contentment? There are other times where I sit back there and go, thank you for all this, because I have everything I need. All the things I just mentioned, I don't need any of them.
My kids are healthy. I think my wife likes me.
Things are going pretty good. I have food.
I paid my bills on time.
Do you understand how important this passage is to the American way of life? I think there's a reason that this thing ends for us so well. Because the two things, the two idols, if you will, that crush our greater love in Christ are sex and money. These are the two things we screw up royally in our society. I want you to hear this today.
There is a better way in Christ Jesus that you can find contentment in the Savior. We just sang it. Do you believe it? Everything I need, my God will provide. Not everything I want.
Everything I need.
It gets better. Verse five, he says, and guess what? You know what? The greatest thing you have that you need and I will provide, it's this. I will never leave you nor forsake you.
Let's praise God for just a minute that he doesn't walk away every time we screw up. Because he'd be walking away from me every day.
Oh, I don't know if you should get up and pastor a church if you're screwing up every single day. So are you, dude. Like, I think things sometimes I shouldn't think. I've gotten away from acting on a lot of the problems that come through my mind. But every once in a while, like that strangers thing, I'll see people coming and go, run.
That's not godly. Yeah, I do that. I do that. I'm working on it. I'm a work in progress, just like you.
I'm thankful for a God who does not leave me, does not forsake me. This idea here is that he won't abandon. He won't desert you. He won't leave you helpless. Be thankful for this, God, because other people will.
You do enough wrong in any relationship. They will leave and they won't stay. That's a fact. That's not who God is.
Okay, so I'm supposed to model that kind of love.
You understand what that means then? Not my way, but God's way. I'm supposed to love other people like that. That helps me with the previous point. When my marriage gets rocky, when I want something that I can't yet have I say, hmm, yeah.
But God will never leave me nor forsake me. I'm going to. I'm going to be patient with people. I'm going to forgive when no one else would. This has helped us to be a part of some things.
At our church. We've seen marriages, restored marriages. Get through things that the rest of the world would say. There's no way that thing is going to make. Will make it.
Why? Because Christ Jesus is better. He helps us to forgive. He helps us to work through things you wouldn't imagine.
So then we get to say, as the writer here says, we can confidently say, I have a helper. Here. He quotes Psalm 118, 6, 7. He quotes it verbatim. He says, the Lord is my helper.
I will not fear. What can man do to me? Absolutely nothing. That's the answer to that question. He can't do anything.
He. He can take your life, but that won't stop you. You have eternity in store with Christ Jesus. Man can do nothing to you. So you can make the determination.
I'm gonna live according to God's word and nothing else. I'm gonna make the determination. I'm gonna love others even when they don't love me back. That's the most Christlike thing you can do on this earth. Cause guess what?
Christ did. Loved others when they did not love him back. Died for people who absolutely did not believe and hated him. That's what it means to be Christian. To love even when you don't always receive it.
To determine that marriage is worth it. To determine there's a better way to live than pursuing constantly wealth and some kind of success that's outside of the will of God. Paul learns this. I want to get where Paul's at. Hear this.
I want to get where Paul's at. I pray you will too. Philippians 4. It says, I have learned how to be content with whatever I have.
I know how to live on almost nothing or with everything.
I'm not confident I know either one of those things. But I want to follow. Imitate. Paul says, imitate me as I imitate Christ Jesus. I want to imitate this kind of way of life.
He says, I've learned the secret of living in every situation, whether it is with a full stomach or empty, with plenty or with little. For I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength. Now, you've heard that last part a lot of time. I want you to see where it's in reference to that you would learn to Trust God in provision and walking through life. I can do all that God requires me to do.
He will give me the strength to do it. I've had this test recently. I want to end with this thought. There was a season for most of my marriage where, at least for my part, I lived pretty humbly. We moved like 11 times in 10 years for various terrible situations.
It was a really hard season. My wife did not leave me, praise God, through all that conundrum of a life that I gave her. It's not what I planned, it's not probably what I promised, but that's what we had for a while. We had very little, but thank the Lord, we always had something to eat and we always had a roof over our heads. And I started to learn over time.
Okay, I'm not going to have nice stuff. Okay, I'm not going to have the nice gadget, the nice new car. I'm going to have to wait a while before I buy something. Some things that maybe I want, I can get them one day, maybe, but they're going to have to go down in price by a lot. I've been there, and in comparison to the rest of the world, that's way better than most.
I had a new test some years ago where it seemed like things were getting better. I remodeled some things in my house and I overspent. And I realized, wait a minute, there's a pit over there. I didn't know there was a valley over there. I've been in this valley and gotten used to that one.
Okay, we have nothing. Hallelujah, we're good. We're alive good with this valley. I came over in this valley and went, hey, we got some stuff.
Oops, I want to be somewhere in here where I go, I can do this. I can do this. Either way, I'm yours. Whatever you want from me, God. You want me over here?
I'll linger here. Whatever here, that's cool. But help me to be generous. Don't let me get in that mess again. Help me to be generous.
Do you see this? This is what it means to be Christian, being content in the Savior. Here's what Christ's love can do for us. It overcomes our fears, our selfishness, our brokenness gives us fellowship with Jesus. This is what he says, or at least what the apostle John says in First John 4.
We love because he first loved us. At the end of the day, friends, this is a love we can't quite do, but we can in Christ Jesus. Why? Because he's done everything necessary for us to be free from sin and to walk in Him. He's paid the price so that we can walk in love.
Let's pray now, church together. Heavenly Father, we thank you so much that you are a good God who loves us, who has shown us love in many ways, greatest of which is the cross of Christ. That even though we were far from you, in fact in a lot of ways we were your enemies, you still died for us. You loved us enough to pour out wholeheartedly and wholly to us on the cross. Lord, thank you for that.
Thank you that you are first a God who loves us in spite of us. And now you call us into that kind of love, not only because of what we've seen, but also because in the ways in which you empower us. I'm confident, God, that your Holy Spirit in us moves us to love one another. If we're feeling hate or unforgiveness or things like this welling up, I'm confident these are not the things welling up from you. You help us overcome those.
Dear friend, if you've come today and you've never received the love of Christ, you've never received it for yourself up until this point. Maybe you've put it off. Maybe you've been uncertain. I pray today that you hear this word clearly. God loves you and has died for you.
And he wants a better life for you than you can imagine for yourself. And he's inviting you today, not later. Right now. He's inviting you into community with him to receive this love that then can be the marker of your life. If that's you today, friend, you've shown up in that way.
Don't wait anymore. Pray a prayer of confession with me today and begin a journey with the Lord Jesus. It says in His Word in Romans, chapter 10, that if we confess Christ, if we confess that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that God raised him from the dead, we will be saved. This is the gospel. If that's you, my friend, pray simply with me.
Jesus, I believe today that you are Lord of my life. I believe that you died on the cross for my sins, my brokenness, my mistakes, my shame, my guilt, all of it. You've hung it there on the cross. I believe that today, and God the Father, I believe that you raised Christ Jesus from the dead. That gives me incredible hope that not only is the debt paid for, but eternity is in store for me.
And now, Lord, I'm asking, help me to love others as you've loved me. Help that to be the evidence of my faith.
Dear friend, if you prayed that with me, so thankful for you today. Welcome to the family, the brotherhood, the love of the church. Welcome. We're so thankful for you and we're praying beside you. These the same prayer.
God help us to model love to our neighbors, to our co workers, to our family members. Help the evidence of our faith be our outstanding love, our sacrificial love for one another and God, I'm praying there's some people writing down cards today, writing names on cards today. I pray you would fill this room with people who need to hear the gospel. You and you alone can do that. Lord, we will be obedient to whatever you call us to do.
If you fill the room, we will be obedient to preach a clear gospel. Would you do that? We beg of you. So that there will be stories all around this room of people's loved ones and co workers and friends coming to faith and experiencing a life of change. God be with us as we continue our week that we would so represent you well in love.
We pray these things in Jesus name, amen.