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Good morning, church. Good to see all of you this morning. We're in part two of our series we've entitled Family Talk. And we're going through chapter four of the book of Ephesians. And as we look at chapter four, I can just really see a prescription for the family's communication.

And when I speak of the family, I'm talking about your house, but I'm also talking about God's house, because we're the family of God. Amen. And so this communication that Paul's talking about In Ephesians chapter 4 might be summarized with this theme verse from verse 15, rather, speaking the truth in love. We are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ. And so this is what we learned last week, that the goal of our communication is oneness, it's unity.

Now, we think the goal of our communication is to be heard, and that's a partial goal. And maybe you'll even go farther to a better goal, which is for both of you to be heard so that you get a chance to talk and they get a chance to talk, and both parties are heard and really understood. That's a better goal. But Paul says an even better goal, God's kind of goal, is that as a result of our communication, we become closer so that we become unified in one. And so the goal of communication is not just to be heard, not just to listen to the other, those are good.

But to actually grow closer as a result of our communication. And so that was last week, and now this week we're going to talk about one of the challenges to this oneness, one of the challenges of our communication. And that's correction, because we're all sinners. Even as believers, we're sinners saved by grace. And so we'll make mistakes, we'll miscommunicate, and we'll hurt the other.

And so in order to continue in oneness, it has to be addressed. You can't just overlook it every time. Last week we learned there are certain categories that you put up with, but there are other categories we have to address. And if we feel an offense, we have to be willing to take the challenge of, hey, let's work on this together so that we can be at one. Here's the truth.

Whether it's your house or God's house, conflict is inevitable. It's inevitable it's going to happen. So since it's inevitable, we have to make a decision. Am I willing to love others enough to speak the truth in love? And what we'll often do is we'll just go, you know, it's just not worth it.

It's not worth it. And so we don't love that other person enough to really work on the relationship. And so we'll just decide, you know, I'm just going to be kind to them. I'm just going to not really address it. You know, last week we talked about this, that love without truth is hollow, and truth without love is harsh.

But truth in love can be healing, it can be transformative. But it requires both parties to have the right heart position, to be willing to speak in love and to hear in love. The problem that I see with many Christians is confirmed by a recent Barna survey. Barna asked a question about whether people were willing to confront others speaking the truth in love. And one out of four said they just wouldn't do it.

They would not have difficult conversations. They said it was in the idea of keeping the peace. They would just say, you know, I just want to keep the peace. But is that real peace if you're harboring offense? No, it's not.

It's not. It's not real peace. Paul challenges this mindset. Real peace doesn't come from avoiding the truth. It comes from speaking the truth in love.

And in the Apostle Paul's letter to the Ephesians, he taught believers how to spiritually prepare themselves so that they could speak the truth in love and confront and correct differences and be corrected as well, and to aim at unity. And I believe as we look at the text today, we can do this through the power of Jesus. And it gives us, the text gives us three heart postures that we can have as we are renewed in our hearts by the Spirit of Christ. So let's look at the text. We're going to be looking for three heart postures that those of us that are in Christ can have as we confront and speak the truth in love.

We're starting at verse 17 of chapter 4 today. Now this I say and testify in the Lord that you must no longer walk as the Gentiles do in the futility of their minds. They are darkened in their understanding, alienated from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them due to the hardness, due to their hardness of heart, they have become callous and have given themselves up to sensuality, greedy to practice every kind of impurity. But that is not the way you learned Christ, assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds and to put on the new self created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each of you speak the truth with his neighbor.

For we are members one of another. This is God's word. Amen. We're looking for three heart postures for truthfully giving and receiving correction. Here's the first.

A tender heart. The first heart posture is to have a tender heart that puts off the old self through Christ. You might think of it like this. A tender heart is one who will willingly admit wrong and repent. Which means they will.

They will say they're sorry. They'll. They'll. They'll repent. They'll go the opposite direction.

They'll say, I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm going to. I'm going to do it the right way. They'll put it off. That's a tender heart.

Notice what he says in verse 21. This is kind of a key. I think maybe back up to 20, in fact. But that is not the way you learned Christ. Because he's talking about how the Gentiles are behaving and how they're thinking and their heart condition.

And then he says, but that's not the way you speaking to believers. Believers in Ephesus, but believers here today. Notice he didn't say that's not how you learned about Christ. Not like you learned some facts about you learned Christ. Very unique language here.

You've come to know him and he knows you. You've learned Christ. It's not the way you're not supposed to live, the way the outsiders, the pagans, the Gentiles outside the faith have been living in their heart condition. You're supposed to be different. You've learned Christ, you've learned his heart.

And then it's almost like a sarcastic statement in verse 21, assuming that you've heard about Him. It's almost like you have heard about him, right? You have learned him, you've heard about. And then he goes on to say, and were taught in him, as the truth is, in Jesus. And then he gives you three teachings, and those are really kind of like the core of our three heart postures.

And. And so the first teaching he gives you is in verse 22, to put off your old self. To put off that old heart, that old way of thinking. To put off your old self which belongs to your former manner of life, your Old lifestyle, your old mindset, and is corrupt through deceitful desires that always put yourself first. The selfishness of your former life before you came to Christ, you need to put that off like you're putting off your old dirty clothes.

That's what he says. And so. But let's back up the bus. Cause we're starting kind of in the centerpiece here. But we need to back up and see how Paul begins this conversation.

And where I got the idea of tender heart. Well, we back it up by seeing how our hearts used to be in our former manner of life. He describes it up here. See how he starts in verse 17. Now this I say and testify in the Lord.

Paul is making a transition. Now in the text, he's been giving us a lot of propositional truth. Like this is true. Speak the truth in love. We're seeking unity.

We're growing up to maturity and to the head of the body, which is Christ, very propositional truth. And he goes, but now let me give you a prescription. We're moving from propositional truth to prescriptive application. This is how you do it. Okay, now I say, but not just me, but I'm testifying in the Lord, so I have the authority as authoritative statement.

The word testify is the Greek word martura. It's in the verb form here, maturamai. But it's where we get the word martyr. But it's often translated witness. I bear witness in the Lord.

Now this is important stuff coming. Stop walking the way the Gentiles do and the way you used to. And the futility, the emptiness, the vanity of their minds. They are darkened in the understanding, alienated from the life of God because of ignorance. And then notice this.

This is where I got the idea of tenderness of heart due to the hardness of heart. That's how we all used to be. He's not finished. They've become callous. How do you get calloused heart?

It's because you've said no to God over and over again. You've been saying no to God, you've been saying no to relationships. In fact, this culture today and people outside the faith, here's what they do. If they get sideways with somebody, if they're not getting along with them, they go, you know what? I'm just not going to be with them anymore.

I'm just going to. I'm going to write it off. I'm going to divorce them. I'm going to change churches. I'm going to move to a different city.

So our modern pathways and every Time we do that, another callous form. So it gets easier and easier to be hard hearted towards God and towards each other.

But he says to put that off. Verse 22. Right? Put it off. Put off your former manner of life.

He described it before by describing that way. You used to think, stop walking that way, stop living that way. The word walking is a, it's a Hebraic phrase which means lifestyle. Stop. Stop living that way.

You, you used to be selfish. When I'm counseling couples, sometimes one of the things that I feel in my heart, if they could, if they could only stop saying me, me, me, and start saying we and start aiming at oneness instead of winning the argument. Because if you win the argument, you've put your relationship at risk and so you really haven't won. And this is. It requires a tender heart.

This is what he talks about, this hardness of heart, this calloused heart. The callous becomes insensible to pain. It becomes apathetic to broken relationships.

Next, you don't want that heart. God desires a tender heart. Here's how Peter describes it in his letter. He says, finally, all of you have unity of mind, sympathy, brotherly love, a tender heart and a humble mind.

We can pray as David did for this tender heart. We can ask God to examine our hearts. We can put off the old hard heartedness. He writes this in his Psalm 139. Search me, O God, and know my heart.

Test me and know my anxious thoughts. Point out anything in me that offends you and lead me along the path of everlasting life. David wanted a tender heart. He had a tender heart towards God. He was like, here's my heart, Lord, point it out, point it out.

We should be like that towards God, but also towards one another in our house and in God's house, because we want unity. And unity requires transparency and tenderness, not hard hearted callousness. My son and I were studying this week. We. We study every Wednesdays.

We preach the same text at both of our campuses. He's preaching right now and so am I. It's a beautiful thing. We try to think of illustrations that we might share with one another. I have to give him credit.

This was his. Now, when he was a boy, he couldn't make his own sandwich. I don't know what it was, but now that he's a grown man, he's become quite the chef. He really has quite the connoisseur. And he goes, tender hearts.

That makes me think of how you tenderize meat. And I said, it does. And he Goes, yeah. He says, when you tenderize meat, it exposes more of the meat, the surface area, and it gives pathways for seasonings to penetrate. I said, wow, you sound really passionate about tenderizing your meat, my son.

And he says, you can put a marinade in there, and it will really go into the meat, and not only do you get a tender result, but you get a more flavorful result. I said, oh, that's pretty good. I said, so if we have tender hearts, let's. We're not just talking about supper right now. Then the word can penetrate, and it adds seasoning and flavor.

So we have the flavor of the gospel tender heart. I said, okay, that's pretty good. I might use that Sunday. And so I was able to. I have another story I'd like to share with you.

Another illustration. I don't. I'm not as proud of this one as I am. The first one I just shared. Those who have been going to our church for a while will recognize this story.

And here's how the story goes. It's a true story. My children were young, and on Saturdays, my wife always went grocery shopping, and I kept all the kids. And so at this point, my youngest, my daughter, was around four or five years old, and they're all out playing in the yard, and I'm trying to mow the grass. I've had one of those weeks as a pastor where I couldn't even.

I couldn't even have any time off to mow. And so I told them, and this is back in the day. Explain this to the young people later. I had a thing called an answer machine. There were no smartphones.

There was no Internet. We had phones that hung on the wall or on your nightstand. And I had an answer machine with a little cassette tape in it. Okay, talk to the young people. Explain it to them later.

It's in your history books. And so I told him, let the answer machine get it. I'm going to mow, okay? And I told all three of them, look at me. Don't.

Don't answer the phone. And I'm out mowing. I've probably taken three runs. Here comes Erin. Daddy, someone's on the phone.

I said, well, let that. When she get it. And she goes, I already picked up. I went, ah. And I started yelling at her.

And I go in the house. I stomp in the house, and I pick up the phone. It's on my. It's the phone next to my bed. It's on the nightstand.

I pick it up, and I switch immediately from My. I told you not to. Hello? Pastor Gary, you here? They'd already hung up, and so I'm holding the phone and I'm going, I told you not to answer the phone.

And now I don't even know who called. Did you ask who they were? No, I didn't ask who they were, and I told you not. I'm sorry, Daddy. I was like this.

I hung up the phone. I said, well, maybe the answering machine got part of it. I hit replay, and it had recorded everything I said. Her. And there's this big old man voice and this little girl voice going, I'm sorry, Daddy.

And I'm looking at her, she's looking at me, and she goes like that. And I got down on one knee and I said, I'm sorry, baby. I didn't know what I was doing.

That answer machine is not supposed to do that. I feel like the Holy Spirit did something to my answer machine that I needed. I needed a mirror. Men, fathers, husbands. God gave you a bigger body, a lower voice.

But Jesus will give you a tender heart to help control it so that you're ready. When confronted with the truth, you'll get tender. You'll get down on one knee and say, I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm sorry, baby.

She puts her hand on my shoulder. She goes, it's okay, Daddy. She's looking at me like, this has never happened before.

If you want to be like Christ, fathers, mothers, sometimes you have to ask your children to forgive you because you're sinners, saved by grace, too. Are you quick to correct but slow to repent? Ask yourselves before correcting others. Have I put my own pride, anger and hypocrisy before the Lord and put it off so that I'm in the right place to do correction and then pray? Psalm 139, so you really got your heart in a tender place.

Ask God to give you a tender heart that puts off the old self in Christ. Here's the second heart posture. The first was to have a tender heart. The second is to have a teachable heart. A teachable heart.

And I told you we were looking at these three teachings that you were taught in him in verse 21. The first one was to put off your old self. Now in verse 23, he says, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds. This is a unique verb. It's actually in the infinitive case.

But the put off and the put on. The put ons in verse 24, the put off and the put on, those are Actions, they're actions you can take. But to be an action is that in the Greek? It's the Greek passive. We don't really have an English equivalent.

And it's where the verb, the subject can't do the verb, but the subject can allow the verb to happen to them. And so it's from an external place. The verb is acting on the subject. And the subjects, me and you, put on and put off. But be renewed in the spirit of your mind.

How do I be? Well, the Holy Spirit has to do it. And the Spirit here is not the Holy Spirit. It's your spirit. It's the spirit of mind.

And what is the spirit of mind? Paul seems to be trying to explain. He's not talking about your brain. He's talking about your heart, yourself, your mindset, your way of thinking. So be renewed in your way of thinking.

Be renewed in your heart. Now, what's this going to require? It's going to require a teachable heart. Part that's receptive. It's not just tender, but it will receive correction and not only be corrected, but it will learn.

It will. It's teachable. It's being renewed, and it's happening constantly here. A teachable heart, it's an inner renewal. It's not something we do, but it's something God does in us.

But what's our part? To be or to yield? I remember the part where Paul was walking on the road to Damascus to persecute the Christians in Damascus. And as he's on the road there, the Lord Jesus appears to him and he's blinded by a light, and he says, Paul actually says Saul, because that was before he changed his name. Saul.

Saul, why do you kick against the goads? And a goad's a sharpened stick that sheepherders use to prod them along. Paul, why do you kick against my prodding? You should have a teachable heart. A teachable heart doesn't kick against correction.

It says, you know what? You're right. I was wrong. I need to change in that area. And that's what a renewed heart does.

That's what a teachable heart does. Correction without renewal will lead to defensiveness.

But a mind that's being renewed delights in the truth. That's First Corinthians, chapter 13. Love delights in the truth. And so a loving heart, a heart that speaks the truth in love, also receives the truth in love. And instead of being defensive, it delights in the truth.

So if you're the recipient of correction and listen, that's Going to be your job at least half the time for some of us. Most of the time depends on where you're at in your walk, Right?

Put on a teachable heart. Put it on. Put off your old, hard heart, calloused heart, and allow yourself to be renewed. Allow yourself to be corrected by God, by the Holy Spirit, but also by your brothers and sisters in Christ. And.

And when you feel that defensiveness, and it'll feel like heat, which it'll feel kind of like the heat of anger, and you'll feel it coming up from your chest, from your heart, and then you feel your neck turn red, then you'll feel your ears turn red, and then all of a sudden your mouth will just vomit out stuff you shouldn't be saying. It's defensive, where you're like, if you're going to hurt me, I'm going to hurt you back. Or I'm going to defend myself and tell you why what you're correcting here didn't really happen that way, or what I really meant.

But having a teachable heart, you go, holy Spirit, help me to be quiet and let them finish saying what they're saying to me and tell me what part of what they're saying to me is true and what part is their emotion, because they're not perfect either, and just let it go all the way in. Because if they love me and I love them and we're seeking oneness.

You know what? You're right.

I see what you're saying. I'm sorry. Will you forgive me? I don't want to do that again. I'm sorry I hurt you that way, but that requires.

Man, you got a. Mmm. You gotta have a teachable heart. You gotta have a renewed heart. Paul talks about it later in the book of romans in chapter 12. He says, do not be conformed to this world.

That's your old way of thinking. But be transformed by the renewal of your mind. That by testing, you may. May discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. Have you got a transformed mind, a transformed heart, a transformed mindset that's teachable, that's teachable?

Or are you defensive?

The Book of Proverbs talks about in correcting, if you correct someone who's wise, they're receptive. But if you correct someone who's not a believer or someone who's very immature, you'll find a different result. In Proverbs, it says, so don't bother correcting mockers. A mocker is someone who just makes fun and they say hateful things to you and it's probably an unbeliever. And if you try to correct them and try to build something there, it probably won't lead where you want it to because they're not reciprocating.

Don't bother correcting mockers. They will only hate you. But correct the wise and they will love you. Instruct the wise and they'll be even wiser. Teach the righteous and they will learn even more so among believers in your house and in the house of God, we should be able to speak the truth in love and grow closer together as a result.

If we have a tender heart and if we have a teachable heart, we have that heart. Posture. In the Book of Acts, chapter 18, we were introduced to a man from Alexandria, Egypt. He was a Jew by background, but he had come to faith in Jesus. His name was Apollos.

Apollo's from Alexandria and it says he was an eloquent speaker and he refuted the Jews in the synagogues talking about the way of Jesus. But he had a few faulty parts in his, in his, in his doctrine, in his teaching. And chapter 18 describes this. Paul had planted the church in Ephesus. He's moved on now, but he's left behind his fellow tent makers.

They were from Rome, a Priscilla and Aquila, and they'd been partners in Corinth, but now they're in Ephesus and he brought them with him and now he's left them because that's what Paul does. He's always on the move. And so here's Priscilla and Aquila and they see Apollo's teaching. They're going, man, he's really good. But he's still preaching the baptism of John the Baptist.

He hasn't heard about the baptism of Jesus and how he gives you the Holy Spirit. He was awesome teacher, but he didn't have the whole doctrine. And so they got him off to the side, it says in the book of Acts and talk to him now. It could have gone either way, right? He's this fantastic preacher.

He had a great following, but he only had a partial doctrine. He could have been hard hearted and he could have been unteachable, but the scripture says he was teachable. And they taught him and said, hey, you didn't know about the baptism of Jesus. You're still teaching. Yeah, we've moved on from that.

He goes, really? And he's like taking notes, right? He's learning. And then he, he says to the church there, he goes, well, I want to go Preach to Achaia. And they helped him raise funds and laid hands on him and sent him.

Because the man was not only faithful, he was teachable. He was teachable and they could trust him. Are you teachable or defensive when correction comes your way? Are you tender hearted and teachable? You cannot speak or receive correction rightly if you're unteachable yourself.

A renewed heart, a renewed mind yields a tender heart, and it yields a teachable heart. And that leads us to the third heart posture that I see in this text. And it's a truthful heart, a truthful heart that is put on the new self in Christ, put off the old self, be renewed in the spirit of your mind in Christ, and now put on the new self. And this is the third heart posture, a truthful heart, verse 24. It's the third teaching that we are taught in the truth of Christ and to put on the new self, verse 24.

Created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. Put that on. The verb to put on has a background in putting on clothing. Putting on clothing to put on. Like put on righteousness, put on holiness, put on love.

And then verse 25 says, Therefore, having put away, having put off falsehood. Literally, I think the King James actually says, having put away lying, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor. For we are members, one of another. Because what are we aimed at? Oneness.

We're aimed at oneness. That's the goal of our communication. And so stop lying and start truthing is the idea. Start telling the truth, but do it in love. And so put on this new way, this new heart posture of a truthful heart that puts on a new self in Christ, because we're members of one another.

If we look at the book of Zechariah, it says it like this. These are the things that you shall do. Speak the truth to one another, render in your gates judgments that are true, and make for peace.

The truth has to be spoken for peace to be real.

But let me remind you what we learned last week, and that is truth without love is harsh. Love without truth is hollow. But truth in love can be healing. It can be transformative when both parties are being renewed in their heart.

Now, it does require both parties, but that's what we're after. Church at our house and at God's house. In Colossians, Paul talks about it. He says, do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator. And so this idea to put off, put on it reminds me that we need help to put off and put on.

To put off the old life and to put on the new as if it were like clothing. I'm reminded that when Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead, you remember the story. Lazarus had been laying in the tomb for over three days. It was on the fourth day. He says, lazarus, come forth.

And Lazarus comes forth. And he comes forth dressed kind of like a mummy. He's wrapped in grave clothes. What's the next sentence that Jesus speaks? Is it an instruction to Lazarus?

No, it's an instruction to those around Lazarus. Lazarus come forth. Lazarus comes forth the people like, ah. And then he goes to the crowd, he says, take off his grave clothes and let him go. He needed help getting off his stinking thinking, getting off his old way of life, his old mindset.

He needed a mirror. And we are mirrors, one to the other. By the way, if you're a parent, your children are really good mirrors.

Which is why when they were growing up and they did something wrong, I'd always say, robin, she's just like you. And she'd go, she'd go, I think he's more like you like that.

But they are like mirrors. And so are your fellow members of your house and of God's house. And we look in the mirror of one another and we see a reflection. And we should be tender hearted, teachable, have teachable hearts, and be truthful with one another and with ourselves.

Now, when I say stop lying, you might be thinking you're doing pretty good at that. But let's examine some of your communication techniques. I don't have time to go very deep here, but just a couple. Let me mention a couple. When we're having a confrontation and we're arguing, sometimes we're tempted to use hyperbole to overstate a point in order to win.

Or that hyperbole is a fancy word for lying. You exaggerate the thing, okay, you overstate it or whatever. And so you might say, maybe the problem is your wife is the one who's always making the bid and she wants to bring that to your attention because she feels like that's unfair. And so she says to you, you never make the bed. I always have to make the bed.

Why don't you help me around here? And here's what the husband will do. Ladies, in case you don't know how men's minds work, they immediately remember that last year on October 22nd they made the bed and they go, now wait a minute. You say, I never made the bed. I've made the bed.

I remember the day I did it. That was that day that you had all four of your teeth pulled when you had your wisdom teeth pulled out. And then now we're in an argument about never and always. We're not even, we're not even talking about the bed now. Now we're talking about the word choice.

Okay? And you're laughing. You know why you're laughing? Because that's what you're doing. And it's.

You're lying. And so never say never. Always avoid always if you're trying to win unity. Here's another tip. When you start the sentence with you, it's like poking them in the chest with your finger.

You never. You always. What if you did this? What if you started with I? Because by the way, when you say you, you don't know what's in their heart.

God looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart. We see in the scripture right in First Samuel. That's the truth. You don't know what's in their heart. So stop starting with you.

You. You start with I and say I feel.

I feel unappreciated that I make the bed. This is the story I'm telling right now every day. Most days I don't feel appreciated and it makes me feel hurt. So you've done these I statements and these me statements. You haven't said you yet.

And most husbands now, it activates a different part of their heart. They don't feel accused. They feel like they let someone down. They feel like they didn't do their job as a protector and a provider, which if they have a renewed heart, that's what they're starting to grow in. And now they feel.

I'm sorry, they don't even start arguing. Probably they're just like, you started off just being real and you're like, yeah, but that's awfully transparent. I know. It's called truth telling. And truth is transparency about what's really going on in your heart because that's the only heart you're an expert on.

You don't know what's in his heart. He doesn't know what's in your heart. But you know what's in your heart. So be real with that, be truthful with that. Yeah, but I'm hanging my heart out there.

Well, you're being tender hearted, right? And you're in the one who's doing the confrontation. Well, this is what Paul's challenging us to. Because he wants oneness. He wants us to grow closer together with one another and closer to God.

Because it grieves the Holy Spirit when we are not at one with one another. It grieves him. It does. Here's a challenge. Are you being truthful with one another?

And here's another challenge. Ask yourself this question. Am I a safe person to bring correction to, or does everybody know that dude's a know it all? If you try to tell him something, he's got a thousand reasons to defend himself while he was right.

More laughter. Are you pointing to someone nearby? Are you thinking to yourself, am I a safe person to bring correction to, or am I intimidating? By the way, I'm always fighting back. Do I have a tender heart?

Do I have a teachable heart?

Do I play nice with others, but behind their back I talk, gossip about them? That's a lying heart.

What kind of heart do you have? Speak the truth in love.

Truth without love is harsh. Love without truth is hollow. Speaking the truth in love can be healing and transformative. But we need the Holy Spirit for us and for the for one another, so that both of us are coming transparently with tender, teachable, truthful hearts. And on the other side of confrontation and a lot of us avoid it can be deeper unity than you've ever had before.

This is the promise of the Word. This is the promise of the Lord, who's teaching us how to be at one. But it requires a new heart. You want a teachable, truthful, tender heart? You need the heart of Christ.

Do you have it? You know Jesus? Let's pray. Lord, thank youk for your word. I pray first of all for the one that's here this morning.

You've never surrendered your heart to Jesus. You don't have a renewed heart. You have a hard heart. If you really examine your relationships, you might already be leaving a trail of broken relationships behind.

Let's come to the Lord right now and say, lord, I'm sorry. I repent. I turn from my sin and from my callousness.

You're breaking my heart for you now, today, Lord. I'm listening. I believe you died for me, Lord Jesus on the cross, and that you were raised from the grave. Come and live in me. Give me a new heart, a tender heart, a teachable heart, a transparent and true heart.

Lord, give me a heart like yours. Lord, I surrender my life to you. I want to follow you all the days of my life. If you're giving your life to Jesus, right now. He'll save you.

He'll adopt you into the family. You'll become a child of God. He'll give you eternal life.

Just pray that to him by faith others are here and you're a follower of Jesus. He's given you a new heart. But I want to pray with you right now for that, for that heart. Holy Spirit, would you put faces before our people right now of those that we're not in unity with? Is it a spouse?

Is it a child? Is it a parent? Is it a neighbor? Is it a co worker or a friend?

Oh I don't want to talk to him. I don't want to work on it right now. Holy Spirit, thank you for showing us who you want us to talk to, who you want us to be tender towards and be right with. Now give us the courage to face the challenge of deeper unity with that person. Empower us, renew our hearts in Jesus name, Amen.