The Currency of the Kingdom

Kingdom Living June 22, 2025 Matthew 7:7-12 Notes


The world says, “You get what you earn.” The world’s currency is merit—performance, success, hard work, self-reliance. But the currency of the kingdom is asking. It’s coming to God not trying to earn His blessing, but as children depending on a generous Father.

Now, that goes against everything we’re taught from an early age, doesn’t it? Many of us were raised to be self-sufficient, to never ask for help, to earn our way forward. And that’s why we need this message today. Some of us have grown weary in prayer. Others have stopped asking because we think God isn’t listening, or that we don’t deserve an answer. Some of us have tried to live the Christian life in our own strength and we’re running on empty. Today’s message is a gracious reminder from Jesus: You don’t earn God’s favor—you ask for it.

In Matthew 7, Jesus continued His Sermon on the Mount by teaching kingdom citizens how to experience the generous provision of their heavenly Father. We can experience the generous provision of our heavenly Father.

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Good morning, church! It’s good to see all of you here. It's good to be back; I am happy to be back in the pulpit and I'm thankful to have some time off to rest and also to study about our church's future.

I'm thankful for a church that recognizes the need for a pastor to be able to get away from the day to day just for a little while and to pray about and study about future things. It's a much needed thing for pastors. I'm thankful that this is a church that loves their pastor. Thank you for loving me.

I'm thankful for you. I'm also thankful for our teaching team. We're very thankful for Mike Laramee and Stephen Combs who filled in here while I was gone. I've been told by many of you that we didn’t miss a step; that when I leave, I don't have to worry about what's being preached and you are fed. We're a blessed church, aren't we? Amen.

I'm thankful for those two men of God who filled in in my absence. We are continuing our series through the Sermon on the Mount. We are going verse by verse through the Sermon on the Mount. We're in week 13 of this series entitled, “Kingdom Living.” We are talking about the greatest sermon that was ever preached by the greatest preacher Who ever lived.

We're now in chapter seven. We've covered chapter five and chapter six; we began chapter seven last week. We're in the middle of chapter seven. We're getting close to the finish line, but not quite. In this passage in Matthew 7:12, Jesus invites us into a relationship with our Heavenly Father,

where the norm is not earning but asking. That's the world's system. That's the world's currency, if you will. You get what you earn. You have to pull yourself up by your bootstraps.

You have to get to work; you have to be self reliant - this is what the world says. But the currency of the kingdom is asking. The currency of the kingdom is not earning, but asking. It's coming to God, asking and coming to Him as a generous Father.

Now, this goes against everything we were brought up to do and to think many of us were raised to be self-sufficient; to never ask for help, to earn our way forward. The world says you get what you earn. You need to plan ahead. You need to prove yourself.

These are things: success, performance, hard work and self reliance, but the Kingdom says, ‘Come and ask. Ask the Father.’ Here's what happens to us when we try to earn; some of us will try to be perfect.

How many firstborn children do we have here? Are you a firstborn? Yeah, we're most guilty of this; this tends to be in the family system. Firstborn, we want the approval of our parents.

We want them to tell us we're the best, we're the best child, you know. We get an “earning” kind of performance personality and God wants to correct that in us. He wants us to recognize that. He wants us to be fully dependent, as His children, upon Him as Father.

It goes against our grain. We're constantly trying to live up to God; He says that you don't have to do that. You don't have to live up to My favor. Jesus did that for you.

You have nothing to earn. You have only to ask. But then, some people are here and they feel unworthy. They feel unworthy. I know God's a good God.

I believe that God exists. I just don't think He's going to give good to me because I don't deserve it. Maybe that's you. Maybe you've been trying to live the Christian life in your own strength for a season, and you're exhausted. You feel empty. You have stopped asking.

Maybe something you asked for, you haven't received. You've been asking for a while, you haven't received it and you've given up.

Maybe you've asked for something and you got the opposite, yet the very opposite of what you asked for. Now you doubt God; you believe He exists, but you've stopped praying. In today's message, the Lord Jesus comes to us saying, “Ask, seek, knock.” He invites us back into this relationship that perhaps we've forgotten about, or maybe we've never lived into it before.

It's this relationship where I'm His child, He's my Father, and He invites me to ask. We need today's message. You don't earn God's favor, you ask for it.

The currency of the kingdom is not earning. The currency of the kingdom is asking. You ask. As we look at the text today In Matthew chapter 7, Jesus continues His sermon on the Mount by teaching kingdom citizens how they can experience His generous provision to asking, seeking and knocking. As we look at the text, I believe we, as kingdom citizens, can follow Jesus as our king and we can live out this kingdom lifestyle.

The currency that we, that we pay as citizens, as children, is asking, seeking and knocking. The Father promises to meet our needs. So, let's look at the text today and we'll see three ways that we can experience our Father's generous provision. We're starting at verse seven of chapter seven. Matthew 7:7-12 (ESV) 7 “Ask, and it will be given to you;

seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. 8 For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds, and to the one who knocks it will be opened. 9 Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone?

10 Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent? 11 If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him! 12 “So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.” This is the word of God. Amen.

We're looking for three ways on how to experience the generous provision of our Father. Here's the first:

1. Take hold of the Father’s promise in persistent prayer.

Jesus returns in chapter seven to His topic that He had visited back in chapter six. He returns to the topic of prayer. Make no mistake, these three command words, these three imperatives, “ask, seek, knock” are describing a prayer relationship with the Father and so, we're talking about prayer. He doesn't say prayer, but that's what we're talking about. He returns to this topic.

Back in chapter six, He had told us to not pray to be seen by others, because that's hypocritical. Then, He says that here's how you pray, “Our Father, which art in heaven, hallowed be thy name…” That was back in chapter six.

He taught us to call on Him, his Father. Then, He taught us to seek first the kingdom of heaven. He told us not to worry about what we eat, what we wear and those kinds of things. So, He's weaving this thing together. But then, He said this other thing; He said, ‘don't just keep mumbling repetitive words to the Lord like the pagans do, because your Father already knows what you need before you even ask.’

Then, here we get to the next chapter, and He says to ask anyway.

I love Jesus and you've got to go deep with Him. It seems like if He already knows, why do I need to ask? You need to ask, you need to seek and you need to knock. John Stott's insight is helpful here. Here's what John says.

He says,“Jesus seeks to imprint his promises on our mind and memory by the hammer blows of repetition. First, his promises are attached to direct commands: Ask…seek…knock. These may deliberately be in an ascending scale of urgency.

He says that these are present imperatives, present active imperatives, which indicate the persistence with which we should seek the promises of God, which He promises. If you go down and see that to everyone, everyone who what? Asks, seeks and knocks, this is the promise and the command to receive. The promise to receive God's favor, to receive God's grace is asking, seeking and knocking. The New Living Translation seeks to give us the sense of these Greek imperative present tense words by translating it like this. Keep on asking and you will receive what you ask for.

Keep on seeking and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be open to you. It's correct to say ask, seek and knock. Underneath that, in the Greek original, it would imply persistence, persistence in prayer. So, we see this now as we look at these three words.

Stott calls them “hammer blows” of increasing urgency, but he still sees them as one unit. Others seem to see it that way. Dr. Charles Quarles doesn’t see the three as “introducing distinct ideas.” He says that all three are to be seen as “pleas for God to act, different metaphors for prayer.” He's not introducing three distinctive ideas. He thinks they're all to be seen as pleas for God to act.

However, others see three unique or distinctive kinds of ways of praying, perhaps. Andrew Murray, who writes much on this, says that by asking, we're asking for the gift. We're thinking about the thing or the person that we're praying for. We're praying for the gift. But he says by seeking, you begin to seek the giver.

So, now you're no longer just trying to take hold of the gift, you're trying to take hold of the Father, Who's the giver. Then knocking, you seek to enter into fellowship with the Father. He sees something unique here in the three imperatives. He says that knocking “speaks of admission to dwell with Him and in Him.

Asking and receiving the gift would thus lead to seeking and finding the Giver, and this again to the knocking and opening of the door of the Father’s home and love.” I kind of see that. I can see both sides of this. Here's something I've been thinking about this week; I’ve been thinking about “ask, seek, knock,”

the way God has made the way we think and the way what comes to our attention seem to be connected in this regard. I don't know if you've ever thought that you need to buy a new car, or it doesn't have to be brand new or you need to replace your car. Have you gone through that or have you thought about that? I've got all the young people on the front row. You may not have thought of that, but maybe you've thought of something else you want.

So, you begin to, in your mind, say, I want that. Maybe you even pray about it; you ask God, ‘Can you supply that for me?’ Now, here's what will happen. Just with your mind, this will happen.

It begins to activate your eyes and your ears, to look for it and to listen for it. In other words, you'll start seeking it. So, you think, I need a car. I think I need this kind of car in order to accommodate the size of my family and to have this gas mileage. You begin to fine tune it down to where you're seeking a particular model that you can afford.

Are you with me? So, you need a car. You ask, you start seeking. Now, you have never noticed this car before, but everywhere you go now, you see it.

Am I right? So, there's something about Jesus. He made us. You recognize that He's God. He created us. He knows. Ask, seek, knock;

it activates different parts of our prayer life. So, if you name a thing to God and you ask for it, it's hardwired into your thinking. You start looking for it, you start seeking it and guess what?

You start finding it everywhere. But, you still don't have a new car. You have to go knock and make an offer, right? Maybe, I overworked this a little bit, but I think there's something I'm getting a hold of here.

If I name a thing specifically to the Lord and I ask for it, now I start expecting and seeking it to happen. I begin to knock on the door of the Father's home and say, ‘I'm really believing you for this, God. I'm really looking for this. In fact, I can think of verses here. I've quoted several of our “friends.” We call them our “friends,” these commentators.

We have these commentary books that we study. We have a rule on our study team, on our preacher team, that you have to do the word studies. You have to do a grammatical, structural diagram, you have to chew on it and pray over it before you're allowed to look at the commentaries, which we call our “friends.” We can't be looking at our “friends” yet until the Holy Spirit's told us all we have to chew on this. Then, we can go look at these other guys. I've been quoting some of the other guys.

Here's another “friend” that probably is preferable to quote. It's Jeremiah. Here's what Jeremiah says. He says, quoting the Lord, Jeremiah 29:13 (ESV) “You will seek me and find me, when you seek me with all your heart.”

This word, “seek,” throughout the scripture often is related to the Father, the seeking the Lord. I think that kind of lends itself to what Andrew Murray said, that the idea of seeking causes you to seek the giver. Then, we have this verse from Jesus in John, chapter 10, Jesus speaking. He says, John 10:9 (ESV) “I am the door. If anyone enters by me, he will be saved…”

And so the door is Jesus, and He wants to give you Himself. This prayer life of persistence that Jesus is teaching here is not that we're aggravating the Father and just because I have been so persistent, He is finally going to give Gary what he's asking for, because he just won't stop asking. That's not the way the Father works. It's more about life change

for me, that persistence is showing God, I can't do this. I'm fully dependent on You as my Father. Can you make a decision about whether or not the next breath is available to you, that your heart will beat the next beat? Are you telling your heart to beat right now? No.

Our entire life is in the Father's hands. And when we pray persistently, we are saying that. We're saying, I'm dependent on You. 1 Thessalonians 5:17 (ESV) “pray without ceasing.” In 1 Thessalonians, Paul teaches us to pray without ceasing; to be constant in prayer. Colossians, chapter four, says this,

Colossians 4:2 (ESV) “Continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it with thanksgiving.” Jesus told two parables in the Bible about persistent prayer, to illustrate persistent prayer. Both of them are in Luke. In Luke chapter 11, we actually have a parallel passage where He teaches the prayer of, “Our Father, which art in heaven…” Then he tells this parable;

He says, “ask, seek, knock,” so it's kind of a parallel passage, but He gives you a different story. The story He gives is of a neighbor who has a friend drop in about midnight. That's a particular kind of friend, isn't it, who just drops in at your house at midnight and they're hungry. So here you are, and they've dropped by your house.

So, you desperately go next door and knock on your neighbor's door and say, ‘Hey, I've had a friend drop in and I need three loaves of bread. The person on the inside says, ‘Go away. I'm asleep and my children are in bed.’ But the neighbor keeps knocking.

Finally, they come out and because of their impudence, because of their persistence they say, ‘Take the three loaves and anything else you want. Just go away.’ I added some of that, but most of that's in the parable.

Then, He says, in Matthew 7:11, “...how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him!” Then He tells another story in Luke 18:1-8, again teaching persistence in prayer. He tells the story of a widow who was going to an unrighteous judge in order to find help for a situation she was in. The Bible says that he was unrighteous and he didn't respect God nor man.

But, she just kept knocking on his door. He finally says, ‘I'm going to give her what she wants, then maybe she'll stop bothering me.’ Then, the Lord goes on to say, 6 And the Lord said, “Hear what the unrighteous judge says. 7 And will not God give justice to his elect, who cry to him day and night? Will he delay long over them? 8 I tell you, he will give justice to them speedily.” What is this He's trying to teach us?

Why persistence? Why, earlier, does He say in the same sermon, ‘Don't just keep mumbling repetitive phrases over and over again,’ and then, here, He says, ‘Ask, seek, and knock, and keep on asking, keep on seeking.’ What's the difference? Well, the other is just repetitive phrases without thought in one prayer.

But this is the same prayer, the same ask, every day, week after week, month after month, believing God for it. Now, some of you here are praying for a lost person. Maybe it's a parent, maybe it's one of your children. Maybe it's one of your teenagers. Maybe it's one of your friends, young people at school, that you really care about.

Maybe you got one of these cards and you wrote their name down and dropped it in here, because that's what we're doing here. We're praying for people that are far from God, that God will bring them near. Maybe, there's someone that you really have almost given up on and you put them as your “long shot.”.

It's a “long shot” that they'll come. Really, it's a miracle that any of us come to Christ. It's a miracle of God. I've almost stopped asking.

Here's what Jesus is saying, ‘Keep on asking, be persistent.’ Why does God need reminding? Do we have a forgetful God? No, but we are forgetful people.

We are forgetful people. Can I tell you some reasons, even though the Father already knows what we need before we ask? Here are a couple of reasons. I have more, but I don't have time.

Here's a couple of good ones of why you should be persistent in prayer, even though the Father already knows what you need. Here's the first one. I think this is a good one: (1) Because persistent prayer is not a transaction—it’s communion. This persistent prayer is not just about getting what you're asking for.

It's about fellowship with the Father so that you hear His heart, so that really you're asking then comes into alignment with what He says is best for you. It's communion.

It's not inviting. It's not trying to wear God down by your persistence. But it's about being a child, crawling up into the Father's lap and asking. Now here's the second reason that I think he teaches us: (2) Because persistent prayer forms us spiritually.

Why is He teaching us this? Because persistent prayer forms us spiritually. It forms Christ in us. In all the Bible, who do you think prayed the most? What human being prayed the most often, the most regularly?

I think it was Jesus. So, wait a minute. The Son of God, the perfect, holy Son of God, found that persistent prayer, constant prayer, prayer without ceasing was what He needed. That's what He needed. If Jesus needed it, we do too.

To pray like Jesus is to pray often and regularly with persistence, believing God, and it begins to form Christ in us. We become more like Him. Here's what CS Lewis says about this persistent kind of prayer. He says, “Prayer doesn’t change God; it changes me.”

I'm dependent on You, Lord. I'm asking You because You're the only one that can provide this. God already knows what we need. We don't pray to inform Him. We pray to answer His invitation.

We don't pray just to fulfill our needs. We pray to have fellowship with our Father. What have you stopped praying for that you used to pray for? Ask, seek, knock. What are you doubting?

What have you given up on? Start praying for it again and be persistent in your prayer. Will you obey Christ's command to ask, seek and knock persistently. Here's the second way we can experience God's generous provision:

2. Look to the Father with confident expectation.

Jesus appeals to something we all understand: Parenting. We all understand that. Even if we're young people, we understand that the parents are supposed to be the ones who watch over us, take care of us and provide food,housing and clothing; these kinds of things. We look to them if we have a need.

Some of you might have jobs, some of the young people here, but most of you probably don't. If you have a need, what do you do? You ask. You ask your mom or you ask your dad. This is the little bitty parable that Jesus gives here.

It's a very small one, but it's one that people understand. He says, 9 “Or which one of you, if his son asks him for bread, will give him a stone?” I guess a loaf of bread and a certain size stone might look similar. One will nourish your body, the other will break your teeth, right? But they look similar.

10 “Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a serpent?” They're kind of similar looking. One of them will feed your body and the other one will poison you.

They probably laughed. They probably said, ‘Yeah, who would do that? Nobody would treat their child like that.’ Jesus says, 11 “If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven give good things to those who ask him!” Maybe somebody in the crowd at that point said, ‘That's you He's talking to right there.’

Notice, He didn't say we are evil. He didn't include Himself; He's the sinless Son of God. When He says they're evil, what is He saying? He's not talking about on some scale.

He's saying that even though you're sinners, you still know how to give good gifts to your children.

He says, ‘How much more will your Father who is in heaven give you good gifts when you ask?’ It is because the currency of the kingdom is not earning, it's asking. He invites us to ask. This is His invitation.

If we look at the parallel passage over In Luke chapter 11, He says something different. Instead of saying how much He will give good to you here, He says in Luke 11:13 (ESV) “How much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him.” Luke seems to take it to the very highest good. What's the highest good that God could give us? He gave us Himself?

Indeed, Paul reflects on this in the book of Romans; he says this, Romans 8:32 (ESV) “He who did not spare His own Son but gave Him up for us all, how will He not also with Him graciously give us all things?” If He's not spared His own son. If He's given us the greatest good of all, which is His own son, His own spirit, He's not going to withhold any good thing from you.

He's going to give you good. Now, this is not an unconditional promise. In other words, you might pray, ‘I'm praying that there will be a…’.

I hear my son is “Amen”ing me right now and I'm appreciating that he's just straight back from being with this great group of youth. My son, Stephen, thanks for the “Amen,” but I'm going to tell a story about you.

Do I have your permission? Good, thanks.

So on his 16th birthday, he was convinced there would be a CJ7 Jeep sitting in the driveway. When he woke up, he was absolutely convinced. I think he jumped up that morning and looked out the front door, but it was not there. He'd been asking for one. I could not afford it.

He got a car a little bit later, but he still remembers what he did get on his 16th birthday. I think he got a fold out couch, a bed thing or something. A futon. Yes, he even remembers.

He really does remember this. Here's the thing about being a parent. You will give the best good you're capable of giving, but you won't give them everything they asked for because they don't always ask with wisdom, right? They don't always know what's best for them. So, with the Father you ask, seek and knock.

Part of that thing that's going on there is you're getting your will in alignment with His will. We read these kinds of comments from the word of God. James says, James 1:5-8 (ESV) 5 “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.”

You have to believe. You have to believe. In James, chapter four, he says, James 4:1-3 (ESV) 2 “…You do not have, because you do not ask. 3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.” So he's not just going to give you something that's going to hurt you.

John tells us, 1 John 5:14-15 (ESV) 14 “And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask anything according to his will he hears us. 15 And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests that we have asked of him.” So, this asking, seeking and knocking is not like you're saying, “open sesame!” and praying to the celestial Santa Claus, who's going to give you everything? No, that'd be the most dangerous thing in the world if He gave you everything you asked for.

That'd be a horrible father. But He's a good father. He's going to give you good things. When I was 8 years old, that year prior, when I was 7 and I turned 8, was the year my father's health started to decline. He was 39 years old.

I'm the oldest of four children. My dad was my hero. His health started going down. They couldn't find out what was wrong with him. About two months before he died, of a year, watching him decline in health and losing weight, they found out it was cancer and he died just two months after the diagnosis.

My mom was a well known gospel singer. I grew up in a blessed house. That whole year, as his health declined, every preacher she knew came to visit and prayed over my dad. They prayed for his healing and prayed for these little kids. I'm the oldest at 8;

the others were young, all the way down to 1 years old, praying that she wouldn't be left a widow. But God took him. And I was a little boy. There's something about a little boy's prayers; a little kid that believes in God,

because I believed in God and I didn't have any doubt. But, He took him anyway.

I didn't doubt God after that. I still believed He existed.

But something shifted in my thinking about who He was.

I started thinking, He's good, but He's not good to me now. I was little. When you're young like that, you don't know how to manage your emotions. I was afraid of God, not fearing God out of respect and reverence, but

I was afraid that He would hurt me as He'd already hurt me pretty good. Somebody needs to hear this.

I was afraid of Him. When I was 13, 14 years old, there were some seniors in my high school that got on fire for Jesus. I hope some of you all got on fire for Jesus this week. They came back and started a Bible study before school; they got permission from the principal. You had to come an hour before school.

You had to get there early. A couple of the seniors came and invited me. I was in the ninth grade. They said, “You should come, Gary.” I wasn’t sure.

Then, one of the seniors said to me, “You know, I've been seeing some of the things that you've said, what you're kind of known for. You are trying to play both sides.” You know, I was trying to be “cool in school.” In fact, I couldn't let my mom see what people wrote in my ninth grade yearbook there because they wrote stuff like, “You're the funniest kid in our whole school. You know more dirty jokes than anybody.”

I did. Aren't you glad you came to this church?

This senior told me, he said, “You need to start cleaning your life up because you're called to be like Jesus; you're a representation of Jesus.” It really hurt my feelings, you know? He said, “Did you ever talk to your dad and say, dad, I want to be just like you?” I said, “My daddy died.” He says, “Yeah, but when he was alive, did you ever say that?”

I didn’t have to guess if I did that. I used to climb up in my daddy's lap and tell him, “Daddy, I want to be just like you when I grow up” and he would say to me, “Son, I'm so proud of you. I want you to just be what God wants you to be. I just love you.

I'm proud of you.” I didn’t have to guess what he would say. This senior directed me to this passage, and he said, “Your Father loves you so much more. Your Heavenly Father, If you ask for a piece of bread, He won't give you a stone.

If you ask for a fish, He won't give you a snake. He'll give you much more than you ever could desire, and it'll be perfect for you.” I was afraid to give my whole life to Jesus. I believed in His existence. I believed that He had died for my sins, but I was afraid to turn my whole life over to Him because I was afraid He'd hurt me.

I was afraid He'd take something away from me that I loved. I knew He was a good God, but I didn't know if He'd be good to me. At the age of 14, God changed my mind and changed my heart. From that day to the present, I'll be 67 next month, my soul, my heart's been on fire for Jesus.

When I was 14, that's when it happened.

The shift was that I was convinced He's a good God and He wants good for me, even when He took my dad, that He would cause all things to work together for the good for those who love Him and are called according to His purpose. I probably wouldn't be a pastor today if He hadn't trusted me. My dad's in heaven, I'll see Him someday. He trusted me with trouble and suffering in order to conform me, shape me and allow me to move towards following Him as my Father. I want to be like Him.

How are you praying today? Are you asking, but deep down thinking God won't answer? Are you asking, but believing He'll answer somebody else's prayer, but He might not answer mine. Ask, seek, knock, and do so expectantly with confident expectation.

3. Live out the Father’s generosity toward others.

We've said persistent prayer. We've said to pray with confident expectation.

Now, we've got this final verse, verse 12. If you've got your Bible open, you'll see that almost all Bibles break this one verse apart and they give it the header, “The Golden Rule,” but I believe this verse is connected. So, we've connected it here because those that have received the Father's exorbitant generosity, now have the ability to be generous towards others, which speaks of “The Golden Rule.” In fact, this Golden Rule is placed perfectly right here with “ask, seek, knock,” but also, “judge not, lest you be judged.”

because it's basically concluding that segment by saying this: ‘Whatever you want for yourself, you should want for others. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.’ That whole passage now is being summarized right here and in so doing, you will fulfill the law and the prophets.

Remember back earlier in the sermon, He said, “I didn't come to abolish the law and the prophets, I came to fulfill them?” Now, He's saying that we, as Kingdom citizens, are to fulfill. How do we do it? By “doing unto others as we would have them do unto you.” Some call it “The Golden Rule.

We researched who named it “The Golden Rule.” One said that there was a 4th century Christian king who put it on a gold plaque behind his throne. Maybe that's where it came from. Others have said, ‘Well, it's because gold is the most valuable, so it's the most valuable commandment.’

It sounds like, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” So it's just worded in a different way. It's the greatest commandment. James calls it “The Royal Law,” so that's what the Bible calls it.

Maybe that's what we should call it, “The Royal Rule” or “The Royal law.” James 2:8 (ESV) “If you really fulfill the royal law according to the Scripture, “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” you are doing well.”

Having received the Father's generosity through asking, seeking and knocking, depending on Him, receiving the gift, looking to the Giver, abiding in Him, now, you're the ones that are like God in this world, pouring out generously to others. Now, that's not how we usually look at “The Golden Rule.” We usually look at it from the negative side. Bear with me and I'll explain.

D.A. Carson, in his commentary, talks about this. He says, “Jesus gives the positive form of this rule, and the difference between the two forms is profound.

For example, the negative form would teach behavior like this: If you do not enjoy being robbed, don’t rob others. If you do not like being cursed, don’t curse others. If you do not enjoy being hated, don’t hate others. If you do not care to be clubbed over the head, don’t club others over the head.”

That's the negative view; that tends to be the way we view it. But Carson says that the positive form that Jesus is saying here, because he's saying, whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to others.

That's what he says. It’s positive. So, let's put that into practice. If you enjoy being loved, love others.

If you enjoy receiving gifts, give gifts to others. If you enjoy being appreciated, appreciate others.

In fact, he takes it so far as to say that the highest wish you have for yourself, you should wish for others. That's hard. I can do that for my wife. I can do that for my children. I can come close to doing that for my grandchildren.

But I don't know that I can do that for you all to want everything that I want for myself, to want that for you, and not only to want it, but to give it to you. How can I do that? How's it possible for me to do? You now see the power of this. Here's what DA Carson says.

He says, What would you like done to you? What would you really like? Then, do that to others. Duplicate both the quality of these things, and their quantity—“in everything.”

You'll be like the Father who wants to shower His favor on all. How can we be kingdom citizens, children of God? It's only by persistently asking, seeking, knocking, and then confidently expecting God to supply our every need. Having received from the Father, we pour out what He supplies. That's the only way you can keep this great, golden, royal rule.

When I was young, I wanted to be just like my daddy. I grew up with a father wound. I was looking for a mentor. I looked to my Papaw (my mom's dad,) I looked to my uncle, I looked to my baseball coach. Somewhere around 17 or 18 years of age, somewhere in there, a shift began to happen.

I began to pray to my Father. I began to think of Him, really, really think of him as my Abba, my Father. That Father wound, that hole in my heart, healed up and I don't think I'd be a pastor today without that whole story because it broke my heart. But then, it healed my heart and it gave me a heart to be a father, to be a grandfather, to be a pastor. My greatest gift came out of my greatest pain.

You can have it, too, if you'll ask, seek and knock, because it is what Jesus is inviting us to. It's not a performance-based religion, it's a grace-based relationship. The currency of the kingdom is not earning, it's asking.

Let's pray.

”Lord, I pray, first of all, for that one that would say, I need a father. I need a relationship with God. I came in on a thin thread today. I'm hurting, I'm empty, I need help.”

This begins with an invitation. It begins with seeking, asking, seeking and knocking and saying, “Lord Jesus, I'm a sinner, but I believe You died on the cross for my sins, that You were raised from the grave and that You live today. I invite You to come into my life, forgive me of my sin, make me a child of God, adopt me into the family. I want to follow You all the days of my life. I give You my life without hesitation.

I want to follow You as my Lord, Savior and King.” If you're praying that prayer of faith, believing, He will save you and He'll adopt you into His family. He'll do a work in your heart.

Others are here and you're a Christ follower. You've received Jesus but you've stopped asking. You're trying to live in your own power or you're afraid of God like I used to be because of some deep hurt that you're blaming God for. Now, you don't ask and you feel empty. Or, maybe you've been asking for something so long that you've lost faith.

What is it? You know what it is. “Lord, we ask, we seek and we knock. We're your children, according to Your wisdom, Lord, according to Your will.

Answer us, Father. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.”

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All right. Good morning, church. It's good to see each and every one of you this morning. I'm so thankful you're here. It's really a beautiful day.

It's warm, but it is quite pretty outside. And I'm thankful you're here. We just finished up last week continuing in this Sermon on the Mount series, and we're going to continue this week picking up right where we left off before. But I did want to welcome back. A big group of our youth went on youth camp this past week.

You can pop up that image for me. So we had, I think, our best group ever from our campus. Go. And so if you see any of these kids walking around, these young people walking around with the black shirt, ask them what the Lord told them this week or how their prayer life is or something spiritual. I mean, you could ask them, hey, did you have fun?

I'd rather. I haven't gotten anything out of my son yet as to what God did in his life this week. So if you get something, let me know. I haven't asked Addie yet. There might be some gold underneath with her.

But anyway, I'm really proud of the youth group this past week. I know you guys were moved, and I'm so thankful for you. But let's continue now in our sermon series, we've called this Kingdom Living. And we're working through the Sermon on the Mount together. And this has been such a joy to study and to preach.

And we're almost done. We're nearing the end now. We're in part 13 today, and this one we've entitled the the Currency of the Kingdom. And I think as we dig in, you're gonna understand why we've titled it that way, the Currency of the Kingdom. Because yet again, Jesus is turning the world upside down, the culture upside down, in the way that normally we might think about a thing.

This is especially true here as we dig into Matthew chapter seven, where Jesus here is inviting us into a relationship with the Heavenly Father that is unlike any kind of relationship we've ever experienced. And in fact, the way in which we gain in the kingdom is completely foreign to the culture around us. The world would say, and somewhat rightfully so, would say, you get what you earn. You get what you earn. The world's currency is performance, is success, is hard work, is self reliance, it's merit.

And that kind of makes sense in a lot of ways. But I want you to understand something. The currency of the kingdom is asking. The currency of the kingdom of God is asking. It's Coming to God, not trying to earn his blessing, but as children who depend on a generous father, and as an adult male, I get it.

That's hard to do. I have a hard time asking for directions. I don't want to think that I'm ever lost. But my relationship with the Heavenly Father is like a boy, like a child, and so is yours. And so that goes against everything we've been taught.

A lot of us since a very early age. Many of us were raised to be self sufficient, to not have to ask for help to earn and get ahead. And even as Christians, we fall into this trap of thinking we need to prove ourselves. I have good and bad news all at the same time. You don't have the power to prove yourself to a holy God.

You can't do it. That might sound like bad news, but here's why it's good news. It's because that's not what he desires. He's not looking for you to prove yourself. He's looking to see if you'll be a child, if you'll come and ask.

Even as Christians, we fall into this trap sometimes. Maybe we even think, I don't even know if God's listening to me. Or maybe he doesn't care. Jesus says completely the opposite of this today. And I pray this helps you.

This, of all the messages we preached, ought to be one that really encourages you. And I pray it does that very thing. He teaches us that we can come boldly, we can come often, we can come with an eager expectation that he's going to move not because of our worthiness, but because of his love and mercy and goodness. And so some of us, I know in the room, maybe you've grown weary in prayer. I want to encourage you today, some of you have even stopped asking because you didn't get an answer or you didn't get the one you liked, or you feel like God's not listening.

Some of us have tried to do this Christian life, in fact, in our own power, and we find that the tank's on empty. I'm not surprised. I've been there. Today's message, though, is a gracious reminder that you don't earn God's favor. You ask for it.

You ask for it. So we're going to be in the Book of Matthew, chapter 7. Jesus here is continuing the Sermon on the Mount and now teaching these listeners, and now teaching us that we can experience this generous provision of a heavenly Father. And the way we experience it is what we're going to unpack today. So the text is going to give us three ways to experience this generous proverb.

Provision together. So we're going to be in Matthew chapter seven, just a handful of verses. Let's read them now together. Matthew 7. Starting at 7, it says, ask and it will be given to you.

Seek, and you will find. Knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and the one who seeks finds. And the one who knocks it will be opened. Or which one of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?

Or if he asks for fish, we'll give him a serpent. If you, then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven, give good things to those who ask him? So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them. For this is the law and the prophets. This is God's word.

Amen. I pray this blesses you today that we would experience this generous provision of the Holy Heavenly Father today together. And so let's start here with where he begins. Ask, seek and knock. This is the idea that we need to take hold of the Father's promise in persistent prayer.

In persistent prayer, Jesus has again returned to the topic of prayer. If you've been on this Sermon on the Mount series with us, you will notice that he has made prayer a big deal. Chapter six. He's already spent a great deal of time talking about the way in which we should pray. In fact, he gives us a model of how to pray.

And so why is it then that he's returned to the topic of prayer? He's told us, don't pray in such a way that you're going to be like, hypocritical and be seen by others. And don't pray in such a way that you don't understand that the Father knows what you need. Now he's coming with this idea of I want you to be progressing in prayer. Because you see, ask, seek, knock, these are all command verbs in the text.

Do these things and then they have this idea of keeping on. As we'll study here, the words could have been asking, seeking, knocking. In fact, one translation, Matthew chapter seven, it says, keep on asking and you will receive. Keep on seeking and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be open to you.

That's the new living actually gets that really close. It's the idea of not just present, but future. Continue asking, seeking, knocking. And so this is incredible. He's talking about a kind of prayer life that just every day, every Moment is in community with God.

What's this about? I think one commentator, John Stott, writes this. And this is very helpful as we begin this conversation. Jesus is seeking to imprint his promises on our mind and memory by the hammer blows of repetition. First, his promises are attached to direct commands.

He says, ask, seek, knock. These may deliberately be in an ascending scale of urgency. All three verbs are present imperatives and indicate the persistence with which we should make our requests known to God. So keep on. And it begins with asking.

It begins. Perhaps you would say it begins in the mind and moves to the heart and then moves to the body. In a way, it's like this gradual, urgent kind of thing. So the idea of ask here in the Greek has to do with more than just like, hey, can I have. It's like a craving.

It's almost like a begging. Have you reached that place with God where you're not just, oh, yeah, God, don't forget about me. No, like you're getting with him every day. Can we really talk about this, God? Because I need you.

A bit more of a desperation here is underneath this word. So it begins there, and then it moves into seek. And this word, in fact, has to do with. To seek something that needs to be found, something. Seek after something that's hidden.

So you see kind of the scale of this order, if you will. Like, there's a difference in the way that you might ask for something in your home. For instance, like if men in the room, for instance, if you're looking for something in the kitchen for whatever reason, we never know where anything is. And I do a lot of cooking at my house. Hear me?

It's not like I don't know what I'm doing in there, but stuff gets put in places I don't understand. And she knows where everything is. And so I can ask from the other side of the house, hey, where is the spatula? Or whatever. But if she doesn't hear me, I have to actually go into the room, hey, I'm looking for something.

And she always knows exactly where everything is. It's kind of amazing. Except for her phone, she never knows where that is. I don't get that. But she knows where everything else is.

But then there's another step. It's like, all right, I've gone and looked, but maybe she's behind a door. Now I've physically gone and I'm knocking.

I hope maybe you can visualize this with the Lord. Is that our process in prayer? It begins in asking, lord, hear me. There's some Things that I'm wrestling with. Maybe it's sin, maybe it's something I'm trying to do, something I'm trying to understand.

I'm trying to hear from God. It begins like God speak to me in these ways, but then the urgency grows where I'm trying to think of more ways to get with him. And now I'm physically doing things like knocking. I think there's more to it than this, too. Jeremiah 29.

I love how it's put here. The prophet writes, you will seek me and you will find me when you seek me with your whole heart. So it's this idea of it's moved from something I've been thinking about to now it's something that I'm really passionate about. It's deep in my heart. This is the kind of prayer Jesus is speaking about.

And then the idea of knocking at a door. I couldn't help but think about Jesus, what he says about himself. In John, chapter 10, verse 9, Jesus says, I am the door. If anyone enters by me, he will be saved. So there's this movement that's happening and it's not confusing.

I know where to go. It's not like God's playing games with me. I know where to go and seek, and I know who the door is.

This Christian walk is not about like, I don't know if he wants this for me. I don't know. No, he wants me to come knocking on the door saying, I know the Lord Jesus. Let's talk. That's the way in which I come into the Holy of holies.

That's what we talked about last year when we were in the Book of Hebrews together, that he is the high priest who allows us to come into the place where we meet the Holy Father. So we know what door to knock on. Here's the really encouraging news to all of you in the room because you might be thinking, okay, great, maybe that's for like those super Christians, whoever they are. They don't exist, by the way. That's not a thing.

There's just Christians and non Christians. There's nothing that separates us other than our devotion to the same Lord. And here he writes in verse eight, he says, for everyone who asks, receives.

It doesn't say just for the apostles or just for those who are getting it. All right? For everyone who asks, receives. And the one who seeks finds the Word. There in the Greek is simply the word pas.

It just means all everyone. The promise of prayer is to for everyone. What's crazy about it is that so many of us don't use it. That's what's wild about persistent prayer, is that we hear Jesus in the longest sermon that he preaches that we know of and recorded at least biblical history. There may have been other sermons that were longer, we don't know.

But this, at least as far as what we have written, this is the longest one he preaches. And he talks about prayer again and again. Why? Because this is a powerful tool for the believer. It's the way in which not only are we able to speak and commune with the Father, it's also the way that our heart begins to change.

God is using this both to bless and to restore. The Bible talks often about this idea of persistent, consistent prayer. Look at Paul writing to the Thessalonians and then to the Colossians. He says, to the Thessalonian church, pray without ceasing. I've often thought that was a pretty challenging verse.

Pray without ceasing. Pick up the phone in the morning and don't hang up. And then to the Colossian Church, he says, continue steadfastly in prayer, being watchful in it, without thanksgiving. Jesus tells this story. In fact, many of the translations put it this way.

You've got these headers. This is a random teaching moment. You've got these headers in your Bible. I want you to know something. Those aren't scripture.

Those are headers from the translators to let you know what's kind of in that section. They're good. They're fine. Just know that they're labeled. However, the translators thought that that section was reading.

But there's one in Luke, chapter 18, and it probably says in your Bible, the parable of the persistent widow, something like that, perhaps. And Jesus tells this story about the very thing we're talking about. He talks about the idea of a widow who comes every single day to this judge and pleads her case, but pleads that he would rule on her behalf against her adversary. Now, not a lot of details are given here other than that she's just consistently coming, pleading, would you rule on my behalf? And Jesus says, the judge is an unrighteous judge.

He's unrighteous before God and before man. But she keeps pleading. And the Bible's really funny here. Jesus tells this story, and he says. Finally the judge says, all right, fine.

I'll give you what you want so you'll stop coming. That's all it says there. So you'll stop coming and bugging me. And then Jesus goes on to say, and guess what? If Even the unrighteous will do this.

How much better will your Heavenly Father, who is righteous, who loves you, who has poured out grace, has done everything for you, died on the cross for you, friends, don't you know that he'll rule on your behalf in a much more powerful way? The reason he tells this story, Luke tells us, right in verse one. You can see this in Luke 18:1. He tells us so that we want weary in asking, don't grow weary in prayer. Wow, okay, I hear you, God.

I hear you saying, hey, when I persist in this, you will show me grace and mercy. Maybe I'm a weirdo, all right? But it makes me ask the question why? Why do you need me to do this? Because you've just said in Matthew, chapter six that you don't need me to just ramble on.

You don't need me to be praying publicly because I've already received my reward. You even told me something that's really bothering me here, God. You said that you already know my requests, so why must I persist in prayer?

Hey, this is an okay question, church. I'm asking it. And part of the reason I don't fully understand that is because I'm seeing it on the wrong side of it. I have to come on another side and come with me for a minute. I hope this helps you.

Why is persistent prayer important to God? It's because this thing isn't a transaction.

We don't come in prayer to God saying, all right, here is the thing I'm trying to buy. Will you buy it for me? Even in repentance, hey, God, I screwed up. Will you forgive me of it? Oh, yeah, he's forgiving you of it, but it's not.

This isn't the point of your prayer life is to come with a bill of sale. It's not the case. It's not a transaction. Guess what it is. It's communion.

It's an opportunity to spend time with the God who made you. Who did he make you for? He didn't make it for that person sitting next to you, for that spouse you live with. That person's important. That's not who he made you for.

He made you for himself. So don't be surprised when God wants to spend more time with you. He loves you and he made you to be in community with him. It's not a transaction. It's meant to be communion.

When Jesus tells us to persist, he's not inviting us to wear God down. First of all, you couldn't do it. I'm pretty sure. His endurance is up there way beyond yours. And he's timeless and eternal.

And it's not about wearing him down as if God is up there. Like, all right, when you've prayed for 20 years, I'll finally give it to you, it's not God. In fact, we're going to get into more about that as he talks about this fish and. And serpent thing. God loves you and he can't wait to give you good stuff.

So what's going on here? It's not a transaction. It's not about wearing him down. It's about drawing near to the father.

It's about a child. One commentator says the child asking and the father giving belong to each other. This is the idea of this community.

There's some fathers and mothers in the room right now that understand this. If you just take it from that perspective, it's not that you don't mind giving to your kids. You just wish they would check in more. You get tired, perhaps, and I've heard this from some of you, so I'm not just pulling this out of thin air. You get tired of the only time they ever come talking to you being the times they need something.

You just wish it would be more of a conversation. Constantly. You miss them in a relational, actual way.

Our Father is like this in a perfect way. He doesn't have the. Perhaps the sinful thoughts that maybe you have at times, but he wants a relationship with us that persistent prayer builds on. But that's not the only reason. I want you to hear something.

Persistent prayer is working on you. It's not that you're needing to move God, that somehow he's immovable and you gotta wear him down. No, what it's actually doing is moving and stirring and changing your heart. You pray for somebody, a lost person in your life for a year, for 10 years, and watch just how you interact with that person. I guarantee your approach is gonna change.

Every week that you continue in prayer for this person, your heart is gonna well up. You're gonna start having more compassion, more empathy. What's going on there? I didn't even pray for that stuff. I just prayed, hey, God, would you please set this person free?

I wish they would know you, but I'm changing. Duh. That's what persistent prayer is about, changing you. God uses waiting and wrestling in prayer to shape our desires, to refine our motives, to grow our trust. I love what C.S.

lewis writes on this. Very quickly, he says, prayer doesn't change God. It changes me. This is the truth. This is the nugget under it.

So when I ask and I seek and I knock, yes, God gives good gifts. But the greatest gift he's given is the Holy Spirit of God in me that's moving and changing me to look more like Jesus every day. No matter what I'm asking for, there's nothing better than that peace that I would look more like Christ today than I did yesterday. Yes, God knows our needs. We don't have to, like, inform Him.

We don't have to wear him down, but we get to invite him. We get to come into his life, to his kingdom and invite him into our life. We don't pray just to fulfill our needs. We have fellowship with a holy God. It's better than we could have imagined.

That's just the first thing that he digs into about how we can come to God in this way and have this generous provision of the Father. The second way that Jesus speaks to is very helpful. That is that we can look to the Father with confident expectation. We come with persistent prayer and then with confident expectation. Jesus appeals to something that most of us understand, and that is this idea of being a good parent.

I would argue that even the worst parent that you could possibly imagine is probably not going to give a snake to a kid that's hungry. I mean, this is like really out there. He says, I don't think you're going to give stones when the kid's hungry. I don't think you're going to give serpents. Why bread versus stone?

Why fish versus snake? It's somewhat unknown, but several people, and I think this could be true, perhaps the stone most resembles a loaf of bread. Like especially in the first century there that the way a loaf of bread might have looked kind of round and may have even had kind of a hard exterior. It could kind of look like a stone. Perhaps that's what Jesus is on about there.

Or maybe he's even looking at what he's just been through in the temptation where the evil one says, turn the stones into bread. I don't know. I don't know why he uses exactly this illustration, but it makes a lot of sense. Because none of us as parents are going to give rocks to our kids and serpents when they're hungry. He says, in fact, those of you who are evil now, that might have offended you for a moment, that's fine, you can be offended.

Jesus did that. I mean, this is him saying, hey, look, you are not perfect, you are corrupt and God is not. That's what he's speaking to here, not so much your actions, but we are all sinners. That's what he's speaking to there. He says, if you who are evil, you who are sinners, can still learn how to give good gifts.

How much more will God, the Father who is in heaven give good things?

How much more? By greater degree, your Father in heaven is able to give you far more than you can imagine. Most of us are pretty short sighted. Most of us really don't even know what in fact we really need. We know what we need today, perhaps we know what we think we need tomorrow.

Jesus is confronting this tendency that we have to expect so little from God.

This almost sounds kind of wild to me because I. I feel like I'm always in this battle in the way I study the Word and even in the way I preach. I don't ever want you to get on the side of the fence where, hey, if I have enough faith that God will bless me, if I pray the right prayer, then I'll be a millionaire. That's not Bible. That's a very unbiblical way of thinking.

But we can go too far sometimes where we think. I don't want to bother God. I don't think he wants to do all this. We don't even come asking because we have such little expectation of his blessing. We wonder if he hears, or worse, we doubt that he's even going to do the good thing.

Oh, if I pray about this, I know God will do something. I just don't know if it'll be what I want. I'm sure God's going to do something. I'm a little scared to even ask, who's there? I'm a little scared to ask because I don't know what he'll do.

He says I'm not the kind of God who gives stone for bread. I'm not a deceptive God. I'm not going to throw a snake in your bed when you're hungry.

In fact, Luke puts it this way. Luke 11:13. Similar. We're in the similar section of Scripture. How much more will the Heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask Him?

This is not a contradiction. This is a clarification. The greatest gift that God has given is the very Holy Spirit. So he starts there, friends, he's already given you an incredible gift and he's not going to lessen or cheapen it. God has already given us the most costly gift, the Holy Spirit.

How did he do it? By his very Son. Why would we doubt his generosity now that the God of the universe would say, this is a people who are far from me and there's nothing they can do about it. They are forever going to be in sin for all eternity. That God would look at us and our situation and say, I got you, I'll pay for it in my own blood.

That a God that generous would do all of that and that mercy. And then now, having come to faith, we would say, if I pray about that, God might give me stones instead of bread. He died for you. What happened? What happened to your theology in the process where you started saying, I don't think God gives good gifts.

He died for you.

He loves you too much for your own good. I mean, Romans, chapter eight, it says, he who did not spare his own son, but gave him up for us all, how will he not also, with him graciously give us all things church? Do you believe that? Do you believe that verse? I find that a challenging one.

That one hits me right in the heart and makes me go, what's going on in my prayer life, Lord, that I doubt that you're listening or that I doubt that you'll do what's good.

The promise is it's not just knock and open sesame to the There's a little more to it. James really gets into this. I would encourage you to read more in the book of James this week because as I studied James this week more, I noticed this has like Sermon on the Mount feel to it. But anyway, in James, chapter four, verse one through three, it says, you do not have because you do not ask. You ask and you do not receive because you ask wrongly to spend it on your passions.

So either you're not getting what you desire from God because you're just straight up not even asking for it. I don't want to bother him right now. What? He's kind of busy up there. I don't know.

What is it that you're thinking exactly? Work on that. I've heard people say this to me, like, I think God's probably kind of busy, like, I don't want to bother. Where did you find that? Where is that?

I've got Jesus, the Son of God here, saying, ask, seek, knock. He applauds the persistent widow come to the Father over and over and over and over. He wants to spend time with you, and he doesn't mind your asking. And he has the cattle on a thousand hills. If he's not giving it right now, it's for your good and there's a reason for it.

Maybe he wants to give it later, maybe. God wants all men to be saved. He desires that people would come into faith. So when you're family member or your friend hasn't come to faith yet, it's not that God doesn't want to answer that prayer. There's something he's working on in the meantime, in your heart, in their life.

Keep praying, keep asking. God's not too busy for you. He's amazing in that he can handle the billions of people on earth and everything and sustain and keep the things spinning and everything he's doing. And I don't think he's struggling.

If you've recently seen Bruce Almighty, this isn't how God is struggling here. He's not got an email where he's just saying, reply all, you know, it's not how God rolls. He's way better at this than us. He says, you have not because you ask not, or you ask and don't receive because you ask wrongly. Your motives aren't right.

You're motivated by something else. Your own passions, your own desires. Some of us come and we don't get our prayers answered because we're not asking the right stuff. And the reason we have to persist in prayer so that he can mold our heart and go, okay, son, I'm glad we're talking, but let's just hear me out. What you're asking for is ridiculous, all right?

So stop that. We're gonna mold that prayer a little bit. Do your kids ever come to you and ask for stuff that you're like, no, you don't need brownies at midnight. All right? Sometimes we come to God saying, hey, can I have Krispy Kreme?

I know it's 1:00am like, he's like, no, that will kill you over time. Just don't do that. And I know that sounds funny, but some of our requests are like that. If we knew the end state of that request, we might be thinking, hey, God, give me this job. Like, it's perfect in every way.

It'll help me. You know, maybe I'll have weekends off. I'll get to spend more time with my family. And we're looking at all the pros, and we're saying, man, this would be perfect, God. And we don't get the job.

We go, God, what's going on with you? Because we don't see where it would have led. We don't see what he prevented.

Come with confident expectation that the God who died for you loves you enough to give you good things. Absolutely. First John, chapter five. It says, this is the Confidence we have towards him that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. And if we know that he hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the request requests that we have asked of him.

This is this idea of come asking according to the will of God, and he hears it and he's on the move. We don't have to be fearful in prayer anymore. We can come eagerly expecting. I find of all the things I'm wrestling with in this text, this is the one that really pierces me the most. I know.

I know, God, I know when you say, when I ask for bed, you won't give a stone. But sometimes I've looked back and there have been just some times where, God, it was pretty hard what you took me through when I asked for this. You got me there, but how you got me there was tough. Am I alone in that? Like, hey, God, I'd really like to be a better pastor.

You don't know what that means. You don't know what that means, that question. God, I'd like to be a better father. I'd like to be a better mother. Help me to be a more godly wife.

Help me to. That's a great request, one you ought to be praying. But there can be fear underneath that, because guess what made me a better pastor? Pain. A lot of it.

And suffering through things with you.

So that makes me sometimes come to the Lord in fear, going, God, I know you hear me. I'm like Jonah on this. Like, I know when you send me over there, they're going to listen and they're going to repent and they're going to come to faith. And I don't want them to. That's Jonah.

Jonah's not a doubtful prophet. He knows when he shows up that God is going to heal the Ninevites. So he says, I'm going the other way because I hate them.

I'm not quite there. But I have to admit something. I'm scared to pray sometimes, certain things, because I don't know what it's going to cost me to get it.

This is such a good encouragement to me today. And if you're like me, hear this.

Our Father loves us and he gives bread, living bread, living water. He's not throwing serpents. It's not his way. If the thing we asked for was according to his will and it took us through a valley to get there, thank him for the valley.

Some of you are like, I don't really want to. I don't know about that. I'M thankful for the valleys. I kind of told this story earlier this week. This is going to be really personal for a moment.

I hope you'll allow me to do it. If not, if you don't like it, I mean, tell me later, whatever. But we've been a church. We're entering our 10th year. We've been a church for a while.

Some of you don't know this, and a lot of those years have felt, at least to me, maybe not to all of you, but somewhat to me. I felt like we. We ministered in obscurity. We were. At one point, we were at RMA and we built church for two years.

We built the church and we had Sundays where there'd be nine people in the audience. We'd have 20 kids in the back with 10 teachers and nine people sitting out here to preach to. I mean, it was crazy. We were working hard in the back. And we've seen the fruit of that labor for sure over the years.

But I felt at times like, what's going on? What's wrong with me? What am I doing? And then we spend all this time over there on 301. And as time went on, it just got more and more difficult.

All of a sudden, we became the U Haul church. I mean, it got weird and people couldn't find us. Even though we're right there on a busy street. It should have been easy to find us. It wasn't.

Here's how I look at that now. I was praying along the way. God, would you help me to just understand what you want me to do? I don't need to explode.

I don't need some kind of wonderful mantle or. I don't need any of that God. But would you just help me? I just want to be a better pastor. I just want to do whatever it is you've told me to do.

Well, and I'm not sure I'm even doing that. God, part of the 10 years before we got here, we've been here like eight or nine weeks, y' all. It's been great. It's been miraculous. It still feels weird to me in a way.

And part of that process, at least for me. And I don't know how it hit some of you that have been on this long journey with us. I think God had to do that with me. That's how I feel that the prayer. I was praying along the way.

I needed the time and obscurity to trust him. So that when this happened, guess who doesn't get any credit, me or you? I Look at this. With 100% confidence to go. This is a complete miracle of God.

I couldn't do this. Anything he's doing from this point on, God's provision, God's doing. I'm just trying to be faithful. I'm just a little bitty pawn in God's big chess game. And I'm thankful to be that.

He had to do that with me. I think he's had to do that with many of you. I've been praying one thing, but God had to take me through a valley. Guess what, church. I'm not unhappy.

I'm not unthankful about that time. I'm very thankful because I wanted to be something else. I wanted to be more. And he had to take me through a very tough time. A lot of you have been there.

I understand you don't want to pray like that. You don't want to pray, hey, God, take me through the valley. Don't pray that. You don't have to pray that he'll do what he needs to do to get you where you need to be. But keep praying with eager expectation, with persistence, going, God, make me a better father.

Make me a better husband. Put me in the right job. I'm supposed to be in. Pray these things and yes, there'll be hills and valleys, but trust him and some of the doors that he shuts in your life. He shuts them because he loves you.

Continue in prayer. Persist in it. Here's the third and final way. Live out the Father's generosity towards others. Live out the Father's generosity toward others.

Verse 12 ends with what many call the Golden Rule, the Golden Rule. And I've noticed something lately that people are monkeying with the Golden Rule. All right? I read this recently. Someone said this was the Golden Rule.

Treat others as they want to be treated. That is not the Golden Rule. That leads you to some real absurdity. No, the Golden Rule is underneath this where it says, do also unto others as you would have them do to to you. It says whatever you wish others would do, do to them.

This is actually far better than treat others as they want to be treated. Well, you can kind of cater that's called acquiescing and catering to people. That's not genuine generosity. That's not real love. Real love is doing something for you that I would want for myself.

Whatever you wish, do also to them. And it fulfills the law and the prophets here. Jesus, I think in verse 12 is summarizing many verses, not just what we're talking about today. With ask, seek, and knock. But also the idea of judge not lest you be judged.

And having this spiritual discernment. All of that is encompassed in this idea of, okay, you want to understand how to be like me and pour out my love for others. Whatever you wish for them to do to you, do to them.

James, in fact, calls this idea the Royal Law. I'd be fine with us as a church if we wanted to start affecting this. We're not calling it the Golden Rule anymore. We're going to call it the Royal Law. I don't know if we'll make a difference.

We're pretty, you know, we have to work pretty hard. But James calls it the royal law. And 2 verse 8, he says, if you really fulfill the Royal law, according to the scripture, you shall love your neighbor as yourself.

Having received the Father's generosity, we're called to be like him. Paul writes to the Ephesian Church. He says, therefore, be imitators of God as beloved children and walk in love as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us. A fragrant offering and sacrifice to God. A fragrant offering.

Look, this is purposely put in the positive. The Golden Rule is not in negative voice. It's in positive voice. Do as you would have done, not don't do as you would have them not do. But guess what?

Most of the time, when you hear people talk about the Golden Rule, they're talking about, you know, I'm not going to be mean to you, so don't be mean to me. That's how it's used. If you don't want to be, you know, hated on, then don't hate on others. You know, I love what DA Carson one pastor writing on this, and this is kind of a long, but just listen in for a minute because this really helped me to process this week. He says, Jesus gives the positive form of this rule, and the difference is profound.

For example, the negative form would teach behavior like this. If you don't enjoy being robbed, don't rob others. Anybody enjoy being robbed? You're strange. If you do not like being cursed, don't curse others.

If you don't enjoy being hated, don't hate others. If you don't care to be clubbed over the head, don't club others over the head, okay? However, the positive form teaches behavior like this. If you enjoy being loved, love others.

If you like receiving things, give to others. If you like being appreciated, appreciate others. The positive form is thus far more searching, he says, than the negative counterpart. Here there's no permission in this verse, to withdraw from the world in order to not offend anybody, but accomplish instead a positive. Like, we can choose to use the Golden Rule and say, okay, well, I'm just not going to interact with people because I might accidentally do unto them what they wouldn't want.

And so then I just become a hermit and I don't do any good at all. I don't do any negative. Well, praise God, I don't do anything negative out in the world and I don't do any good either.

What would you like done to you? What would you really like than do it to others? And here's what got me this week. Y' all just wrestle with this for a moment. He says, duplicate the quality of these things and their quantity in everything.

Imagine living in such a way towards others that you would give them the best and the most.

You can understand now why you might fulfill the law and the prophets.

I want to have a lot of friends, don't you? Y' all want to have a lot of friends? Do you know how to make friends? I hear this sometimes from people. They're like, I just don't.

I don't have a lot of friends. Seems like nobody's. Are you friendly?

If you're not friendly, you don't have a lot of friends. Wow. Some of you haven't figured this out yet. You're adults and you haven't figured out. It's interesting.

I don't have a lot of friends because I'm not friendly. But I want people to accept me as I am. And I'm a bit of a turd. Well, they don't wanna. They don't want to. Stop being that way.

Be more friendly. You'll have friends. You know what makes people the most liked people. Like, they did a study on this of kids who won the superlative in high school of most likable, or whatever that superlative was called for you. And a lot of us would think, well, that's probably the best athlete or the best looking.

And that could have been true in your case. But the study showed overall, the reason that the person became most likable or was that they liked the most people. When they would go down the hall, they would say, hey, Jim, hey, Dave, hey, Susie. They know people. They're talking to people.

They like people. Guess what happens? People like them.

I want more friends. Be friendly. I want to be loved. Be loving. You're hard to love.

That's why you're not loved.

Some of you are like, I liked this sermon until now. Now I Don't like it. I'm sorry. Let's take the band aid off. Do unto others as they would be.

You would have them done whatever you wish they would do to you. I just want people to be nice to me. Then why are you so mean? Why are you rude? Why are people rude to me?

Because you're rude.

Some of you are getting mistreated in life. I get it. Some of you are the sweetest people in the world. And guess what? The world is full of these people that are doing that.

They're walking around going, I just wish people were nice to me. And they're rude to people. And you're getting the end of that. All right, I'm sorry. That happens.

Guess what? People are broken, messed up sinners. We all are. And those are the very people that are saying, I just wish people would love me, but I'm so mean. And you're getting the brunt into that.

What would you like done to you in quality and in quantity? You want to know how to love others like God loves them, like God loves you. We're talking about a God who mercifully poured out for you in spite of you, who died for you despite the fact that you are such a tremendously difficult person in spite of the fact that not only were you a sinner, you continue in it.

The brokenness that so many of us struggle with, it's still there. And as we walk in Christ Jesus, this is true. The more we spend time in asking and seeking and knocking and walking in Christ Jesus, the more we start to see him pulling away at all of the sin and working it out. But there's still some remnants in there until God takes us home. There's depths in there that he's still mining and digging at.

But if you could just grasp this little thing, hey, if I want to know how to interact with people, what would I really, really, really want from them? This church, you're hearing this right now. Would you apply this start, Think about this in your next interaction. You might walk out of the door today and there's a couple people in here that you're like, I don't really care for them. What if you wanted the best quality and the most of it for them?

How would that change how you talk to them when you leave? How would that change how you talk to your son or your mom or your friend or your co worker, that person that just unnerves you? What if you wanted the very best and the most of it for them? What would that change? Oh, it would Change everything.

Wrestle that for a minute and go. Okay, I get it. I get why this would really fulfill the law and the prophets.

The question then becomes, what do I want to be now? What do I want to be when I grow up? Do I want to be more like the Lord Jesus in mercy and in grace, the kind of person who loves in spite of what he receives?

Another way to look at the golden rule that people missed is like, however they treat me is how I treat them. This law of reciprocation, that is not the golden rule. They spit on you, you go, thank you. Love you too.

Oh, I really hate it now. I really hate this message.

This is why you need to ask, seek and knock. None of us can do this apart from the spirit of God in our life. None of us can live this way if we don't walk with him and say, God, you inhabit my praise, inhabit my life. Help me to be a worshiper. Help me to be the kind of person who loves others.

And God, use me as an example to reach people with the gospel. That's what we've been called into this kingdom living that lives in action. This is the kind of verse that has led people to say, well, I think this must be something that happens in heaven. This must be God talking about some kind of paradise, some kind of kingdom principle that we can't quite attain here. And I think that would be misguided to look at it that way.

I think we should look at it and say, yes, I can't do it, but in Christ Jesus I can, by my human power. Absolutely no way. There's no way you're coming up and slapping me and I'm turning the other cheek. There's no way but in Christ Jesus I can do unto others as they would do unto me, as I would wish they would do unto me.

The currency of the kingdom, my friends, is not earning, it's asking. Some of us have stopped asking. We've grown discouraged, even cynical. Some of us feel like no one likes us, like we're unloved. But Christ has called us to be loving, to represent him well, and then he will fill in the gaps.

He's waiting on you not to be impressive, but to be dependent that you would come as a child. So, church, let's run together. We're going to continue in worship here in a moment, but let's spend this time running to the throne room of grace. We have been granted access to a heavenly father, a holy God. Why wouldn't we spend every waking moment in that place asking Seeking and knocking and seeing God move.

Let's seek him earnestly. Let's continue now. Church in prayer Heavenly Father, we ask boldly right now that you would help us to be the kind of people who represent the golden rule in the way that you intended it.

Oftentimes I hear people say, I don't want to go to church. I don't like Christians because fill in the blank, they're hypocrites, they're blah, blah, blah. God, I pray that we would be the kind of people I boldly ask this, God, that we would be the kind of people that represent you well, that we are loving because, God, you are loving. That we have received much, therefore we can give much. That we would be so in tune, so in lockstep with you, God, that it would not be difficult to be merciful when normally it would have been hard.

Pour out your grace in us and through us. God, help us to be generous with this life. Help us to be loving. Why? Because you are loving and you love through us.

God, help us to pour out in such a way. Lord, I pray that there's some people in the room right now that have gotten weary in prayer and many times, Lord, you say, persist in it. Don't grow weary in it. God, I pray boldly again that you would speak in a powerful way this week in their life, that they would return to you in prayer this week, that you would begin to show them things. Maybe it's small, maybe it's big.

God, would you answer prayers that people would have no choice but to praise you? I pray that social media at our church would just be filled with people saying, I can't believe what God is doing. It's amazing. I would love to read all that this week. God, I pray boldly.

Would you, when we come to you faithfully, God, if it's not answered prayer at first, God, that you would move our heart. God, I pray you would do that too, that perhaps next week I'll hear from somebody, hey, you know, I was praying for this, and God hasn't done anything about that yet. But guess what he's doing in my life? He's softening my heart.

God, I recognize somebody has come in the room today and they're far from you. All of this sounds very difficult. How in the world can I do unto others as they would do unto me and, like, really love them like that? How is that possible? Why would I pray to a God?

There's all these unanswered questions and what's underneath that? God, is there's not a personal relationship with you yet. And I pray, Lord, right now they're feeling a tug that they feel you calling friend, if that's you, today, you have an opportunity to receive salvation, freedom from sin and a life anew. And God offers that. He offers that by the cross of Christ and by our faith.

Friend, if you've come and that's where you are today, would you pray simply with me? Paul writes to the Roman Church in Romans chapter 10, that when we confess with our mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in our heart that God raised him from the dead, we will be saved. So we together, we just offer a simple prayer of confession. If that's you, my friend, pray with me simply this. Lord Jesus, I believe today that you are king.

You are Lord of my life, you are lord of all things. Jesus, I believe that you died on the cross for my sin, my shame, my brokenness, my guilt. I lay it now at your feet. God and Heavenly Father, I believe that you raised Christ Jesus from the dead. I believe in the cross and the resurrection.

And that gives me so much such hope today that not only am I freed from sin, but that God, you have everlasting eternity in store for me. There is something beyond this place. What hope and Lord God, I'm asking now, would you help me to be persistent in prayer? I pray that you would show up in a way I've never seen before in my prayer life. God, help me to do unto others in the way that I would wish them to do it to me, that I would fulfill this loving law because of your grace and mercy to me.

Friend, if you prayed that with me, welcome to the family of God. And we're praying right along with you the very same thing that you finished that prayer. God help us to persist. I pray for that person that's been praying for many, many years for a loved one, for a sickness, for something in their life. God, would you move in some way this week?

Would you just show them? I don't care how you do it, God, just show them. Hey, I'm here. I hear you. Continue.

Let's spend time together. God, show up in a powerful way. And God help us to be the kind of church that relates to others in a way of grace and of love unlike the world has ever seen. We pray all these things in Jesus name, Amen.


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